To ask you to share your proposal sorry

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Inspired by another thread..I’ll start...Honestly my proposal was a shambles, He planned a scavenger hunt around our house, with clues, and presents in each place with the ring being the final prize.

What actually happened was our then 3 year old son saw him hiding things, and subsequently took everything out of the hiding place and put in the middle of the room. When my husband got down on one knee, our son thought he was getting ready to play fight, and he jumped on my husbands head and the ring flew across the room, and took a good 10 minutes to find. When my husband did find the ring, he tried again except my son just kept shouting ‘what are you doing daddy?’ ‘What does MARRY mean?’

It was absolutely perfect chaos. Everything went wrong but I loved it, and it still makes me smile now.

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My husband and I went camping at a gorgeous lake, and after we had built a fire once the sun set and were enjoying some wine, he asked me. Lovely, lovely night.

Obviously I meant story not sorry...

Me and my partner mutually decided when we had been together for 4 years that we should get married at some point. It was just a conversation we had when we were walking to the shops.

A few years later we went out to buy a ring. That was quite a fun day because the jewellery shop people were way more intense about it than we were. We decided on a ring and bought it.

Recently he asked me if I ever regret not doing the big proposal thing, and I said no. I don't see the point in it, he would feel silly, I would feel silly - who would it be for?
He knew my feelings on it beforehand.

I realise this makes me sound like a bit of a kill joy.. I'm not, honestly!

I like hearing proposal stories but I wouldn't want that myself.

"Shall we get married?" "Alright...have to wait for my degree absolute". Went to Brighton that weekend to the lanes to get a second hand ring. The end.

Mutual decision here too, no proposal.

My first Mother’s Day this year. DD is 4 months old.

I woke up and he said he would take DD, give her her milk while I had a lie in. He came up with a cup of tea and DD in a baby grow that said “Mummy will you marry Daddy?” And he tried to get in on knee but he couldn’t because the bedside crib meant he would be a awkward distance away so he just sat on the bed by me 🙈 it was really sweet. 🥰

I heard an awful story about someone who died tragically young. Mentioned it on the phone and said we needed to sort wills after our holiday. Holiday had a stop in Vegas. I believe the exact comment was “fuck it, shall we just get married in Vegas” to which I replied “probably easier”. We’re so romantic.

In a beautiful garden in Paris and a total surprise. We were lying side by side in the grass - no down on one knee which I wouldn't have liked anyway. Perfect ring and the sun was shining. Apart from the birth of our son it was the happiest moment of our lives.

My brother had recently proposed to his now wife. I and another (female) family member were talking with mow sil about our possible future weddings. Sil said something bitchy about as she was the only one engaged then she was the only one who could talk about this.

Later than night i was talking to now DH how upset she made me and I said something along the lines of we will get married one day wont we? He then proposed and it was lovely. The following week we went looking for a ring which took a few weeks to get.

Not a massive gesture and happened in several stages. First, he said "shall we get married next summer then?" as I'm a teacher and wanted to get married in the long holidays. We were in Cornwall at the time and I tried on some rings to get ideas. Then I panicked about getting a venue booked as someone at work told me I'd have to book ages in advance so we did that. I chose a ring style and DH went and got one, but I didn't know exactly when. One Friday night in October I went out and got massively hammered. I got up in the middle of the night to make tea and DH got up as well, I thought it was a bit strange but he didn't want me to look in the fridge as he had put champagne in there. He proposed the next morning over breakfast and then we went to an auction.

We were three parts cut at a friend's barbeque. He asked me to marry him - and I laughed. He woke up next morning to find me asking him teasingly whether he remembered what he said to me last night or had he been too drunk - but I distinctly recalled he'd uttered something sounding very like a proposal! At first he pretended he'd forgotten. But he eventually managed to convince me he was serious.

I wouldn't have exchanged that moment for all the romantic proposals you see under the Eiffel Tower etc; it's recalled fondly as it's typical of the spontaneneity, humour and laughter of our relationship. DH is not the sort of man to get down on one knee and I'd have found it distinctly humorous if he had. We went out and chose the ring together and made a celebration out of that, sharing a beautiful meal and champagne on the waterfront. We also eloped and had a blissful wedding in one of the most romantic cities in the world (I was warned that was my 'romance' quota for the next ten years).

For our tenth anniversary we had the ring - originally a solitaire - reset as a trilogy. We'd been through a great deal to have our DC and it seemed a fitting tribute to our past, present and future family. We've been together two decades, have seen each other through the best of times and the worst of times, and we still laugh together. And have never run out of conversation.

Not the greatest romantic proposal story in the world, but I wouldn't have changed one thing about it. Or the man.

In the snug of one of our local pubs on his birthday Very low key, very us. He had literally just decided to go out and by the ring that day! It was perfect.

Mutual decision here, no proposal.
I was a single parent to twins and we had some very open discussions about what we wanted, expectations, goals, the twins, possible future children.

It's the 21st century I feel that a lot of the stuff around weddings is out of date - proposal, bride given away at the wedding, spending a fortune on one day (unless you have a fortune). I'm also shocked at how few couples discuss money, children & other major things before marrying

We were on holiday at an amazing hotel at an amazing place, we hadn't felt so peaceful in our lives. It was valentine's and we'd gone to the gift shop separately to buy each other gifts. We exchanged gifts and we'd bought each other the exact same thing. he read my card to me that was a beautiful speech and he kept stumbling on the words which was adorable. And he gave me my ring while on one knee. Very fairytale, absolutely perfect.

I had a long-distance relationship in the early 90's (I was in the US, he was in England) and I said:

"This distance is crap. I'm tired of seeing you only four times a year and I am paying over $2/ minute on the telephone to talk to you and I'm slowly going broke. There has to be a better way."

Him: "What options are there for visas to the UK?"

Me: "The only one that could work is a fiancé/fiancée visa or a spousal visa."

Him: "I suppose we should get engaged...You wanna get married?"

Me: "Yes. I'll go to the British Consulate General tomorrow and get the forms to start the process."

Mmm, so romantic.

We've just celebrated 24 years of marriage so it turned out ok. But, jeez. That was a business transaction not an engagement. I didn't even get a ring because the visas (fiancé and spousal) and the plane tickets cost around GBP3,000. Maybe I'll finally get a wedding band next year for our silver anniversary. Sigh.

Oh wow - my proposal was exactly the same as yours OP, but without the 3-year-old.

He planned a scavenger hunt around our house, with clues, and presents in each place with the ring being the final prize.

He went really high stakes and did it on Christmas Day before we went to go and visit family. Although it was obvious I was going to say yes. He even asked my dad for my hand in advance. My dad joked that I hadn't needed permission to do anything for a very long time (probably every tbh), but that, of course, my DH could marry me.

We'll have been together 14 years and married 4 this year

Another one with a mutual discussion and no proposal.

We had an 18 month old son when we married, so a proposal would've been silly in our eyes.

Ring was in my advent calendar on Christmas Eve

We decided we were ready for children, I said that I wouldn’t have then until we were married. He said, ok, I’ll start saving for a ring.

He saved, bought the ring and gave it to me a few months later outside work. I knew he had the ring and was coming to propose.

Beautiful diamond solitaire on a platinum band - he chose it himself but it’s hard to go wrong with a single diamond.

Pregnant with dd1 i had to have an early scan (7 weeks) due to bleeding. All was fine. Dh took me for a meal at a very very fancy restaurant the next evening to celebrated we were to become parents.
Thing is neither of us are fancy so it was very out of our comfort zone.
The waiter came down and placed ring on table while dh got down on one knee.
The rest of the staff then made a half moon circle around the table and started to clap ive never been so embarrassed in my entire life and shocked! then my siblings and parents, his siblings and parents all jumped out from behind a door, DH had booked a small private room. They All proceeded to get absolutely hammered and i spent rest of the evening driving back and forth to drop them home while throwing up every so often .

Looking back he put alot of effort in but the horrible morning sickness ruined it for me.

We had just moved in together and it was a bank holiday and we were going back to the place we first met to meet some friends for lunch. Our train arrived about ten minutes before we were due to meet them so we went for a wander in some gardens next to the train station and I was trying to take a picture of a bee on my phone when he asked me to stop doing that and listen to what he was saying, so I turned to look at him and he was down on one knee with the ring box open.

I don't even remember what he said because I was so surprised. I really wish I could remember.

Then we met our friends for lunch and I kept my hand in my pocket until we got to the restaurant and he pretended he was going to the loo and asked the waiter to bring four glasses of champagne, and when they arrived we told our friends. For a few hours they were the only ones who knew.

We were overseas on holiday and both of us had a bit to drink. He was being an arsehole so I told him that I had enough and that I was leaving him when we got home. He said "you can't because I was going to ask you to marry me'. That stopped that argument pretty damn quickly!

That was well over 20 years ago. Still together and happy!

We were sitting on my single bed in my grotty shared flat watching TV and he said something like “we could get married” and I said something like “yes, we could” and we both smiled and carried on watching TV.

Dh planned a surprise trip to see northern lights and proposed while away. It was super romantic and pre dc so very indulgent. I loved it.