Asking DH to take leave to cover school work

[Binswangers]

I have asked DH to take leave to be with the children when they have exams from school.

I'm a key worker and I have to work that week. I have noticed that my 7 year old struggles with logging in and uploading work. My 12 year old needs to be kept an eye on, as he is prone to online gaming.

My DH normally works from home and I usually have after-school childcare. I don't have childcare at the moment. He says he's very busy, but I've noticed he doesn't start work until late in the mornings.

AIBU?

What exams? I thought they had all been cancelled?

...and even if they weren't cancelled, what exams would your 7yr old be doing!?

Our school is setting exams for years 3 and 7

What for?

That's odd, how are they going to ensure no cheating if they aren't in a classroom setting? My children have been getting work set, but the main message from their headteacher is just do what you can

Tell the school to stuff it. No year 3 needs formal exams in normal times and it is pure cruelty at the current time.

Or year 7. Is it a private school?

Is it sats?

I’m surprised you even need to ask him.

I’m covering the vast majority of dd’s distance learning because I work fewer hours so I can be available for her, but DH is still helping her too because sometimes I have meetings at times she needs a parent to help. I just stick it on his calendar and he covers it unless he also has a conflict. Then we negotiate.

Pointless and unreliable. No purpose.

SATs is Y2 & Y6 and more importantly CANCELLED.

If he can start work late in the morning, then can he work flexibly and be around for the children a bit during the day?

I personally don't see taking annual leave as necessary to support the exams of children that age - I rather DH kept it for something more important.

Your 7yr old is logging in and uploading stuff himself. Wow!
My 8 yr old is fairly good on computers but not that good. Maybe I under estimated him. He wont ever work alone.

Exams seem completely extreme and unfair.

Your dh could help them in the am if he's not starting til late.

All school exams are cancelled. Any taking place at home could easily be invalid due to cheating.

Your school is stupid to be doing them and in your place I’d refuse.

I'm finding it hard to believe that any school, private or otherwise, would think it was a good idea to set exams. And if it's really the case and not just some bizarre misunderstanding, then I would be telling them where to stick it. Parents and children have enough stress to contend with at the moment.

That’s bonkers. My Y3 and Y6 are at private school (if that’s the issue). There are no year end exams this year because obviously its impossible to invigilate from home.

I think it's a bit extreme to take a week's annual leave for school tests.
Have you spoken with the school to explain the children will be under the care of their parent who will be working at the same time? Ask how they expect the children to manage the tests?

remove the bloody xbox/ps4 if your kid cant be trusted?

OK leaving aside the rights of an exam atm.

You'll be out at work. Can he adequately provide care for the 7 yo whilst working from home or will he be locked away and the 12 yo doing childcare?

What currently happens when you're out the house at work?

They are doing online tests? Why can't he help them log on if he's working from home? Why does he need to take a full week off work?

The exam thing is weird. When I took college courses on line, we had to download a proctoring program that would watch us take tests. It was creepy and nothing that would fly with children.

All other things being equal, I get your point. Not very unreasonable...Something to discuss with DH, for sure.

No exams happening!
A 7yr old generally would need help logging in and downloading stuff. Apart from the fact that an adult should be in the same room as them if they are online! If the older child won't stop gaming, use the parental controls to stop him.
Sorry Op, but you sound like you're not great at arentingnyour kids at th moment with regards to their computer usage.

It's difficult to remove the desktop from the 12 yo because he's using it for his school work.

It's a school that loves exams, I'm afraid.

I have to say, I'm pretty amazed at how my 7 year old is coping. But unsurprisingly, he isn't faultless. The systems don't always work and need an adult to contact school sometimes.

So when you're at work op are your 7 and 12 yo online and unsupervised?

So parent him and sit next to him when he’s working! You do realise that when children are in school the teachers don’t just leave them unsupervised to do their work?