to date a 22 year old? i'm 29

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Is it weird? We are both inexperienced and this is our first relationship. We are also autistic. 22 seems so young though!

Why not? Give it a go, what have you got to lose? Age is just a number. Good luck op... Go have some fun 😁

I heard a formula once, that half your age+7 is about as young as you should go. Of course some have bigger age gaps than this and are very happy. I think see how it goes, it isn't a controversial age gap

Can only give it a go and see. If you like each other then why not! Maybe try keep it light, like just a little more than friends ;-) or take things slow and see if you are compatable or not.

I think it's a big age gap given the stage of life.

I am nearly 30 and with a guy who is just turning 25 this weekend. I was concerned about the age gap at first but haven't given it a thought since - I am head over heels happy and that's all that matters.

Yes of course it’s ok, enjoy!

I think it depends what stages of life you're at. For example, I'm 29 and I wouldn't date a 22 year old as I have a child and I don't think a 22 year old man would want that responsibility. But if there are no kids involved go for it.

I'm 31 and I usually say 25ish is the cut off. But if I really liked them I could go as far back as 22. I just might not expect anything more than it being a bit of fun.

I mean if it's the first relationship for you both then you arent in different stages really.

Neither of us wants kids

Even better then if you're on the same page. Go for it!

"Neither of us wants kids" ...at the moment

Why the presumption that isn't a permanent choice? I've known since I was a kid I didn't want kids. And if they do change their mind pp, they can break up, it isnt rocket science.

I dont think its that weird depends on their maturity I suppose.

Plenty of people re married with kids at 22 and it's not as if plenty of relationships where both are the same age dont fail.

Give it a go. Gotta be better than wondering "what if" .

You are both adults

@HeadPotato a yes MN quick to invalidate someone’s decision to not have kids

I met my now DH when I was 22 and he was 29 nearly 30... 11 years later we are married two kids and happy.
For context though, he had a six year old when we met and we were both established in our careers.

We did it, and 37 years down the line, it still works for us.

If it makes you both happy, go for it. Life is too short to worry about a couple of years when you are both over the age of 18. You are individual people , ages don;t reflect maturity or a person. Good luck!

Why not? I think as long as both parties are consenting adults, go out with whoever you fancy of any age size, gender, race etc. It's legal.

I really must preview before sending. But I think you understand what I mean regardless of the typos.

@cinammonbuns , I didn't understand what you were saying?

I guess if you're 100% certain ... but people do change their mind and if OP changes her mind 3/4 years down the road when her biological clock is ticking it might be too late to find someone to start a new relationship with.
I'm probably wrong but I'd think carefully about it.

A seven year age gap is only an issue if you make it one. Give it a go & see what happens.

Good luck!

Definitely creepy

I didn't want children at 22. I have two children.

It all depends where you are in your lives though.

I’m 7 years older than my Dh . We married when he was 24 and I was 31 - we are just about to celebrate our 21st wedding anniversary .

There are 7 years between me and my DP. We are a fair bit older than OP but all is well. We both had a bad time in the past but are both happy now. We took things very slowly because of our past experiences.
Don't rush into things too much and just enjoy each date or day for what it is. Always remember to have fun.