I only want one child but my partner wants more?

[Delizhop]

Hiya,

I’m literally a week from my due date and i hated being pregnant. It was awful. I’ve hated it all the way through and want it to be over. And with my weak pelvis I fear recovery is going to take forever also.

I always wanted two but with pregnancy not being what I expected between morning sickness, physio, depression, severe weight gain and many other bad sides I honestly don’t want to do it again. My partner has always wanted a minimum of 3 children. He sees my struggle but doesn’t want 1 and doesn’t want our child to be lonely which I do get. Having such a big age gap between me and my siblings I always wanted my two to be close in age but I really don’t see that happening.

Will my feelings change? Why do I feel so guilty all the time? Has anyone else faced this issue?

The person who doesn't want more gets the final say.

I had a horrible pregnancy and birth, I never wanted to do it again. DS is about to turn 7 and I've never once wavered from that decision (but I STILL get people saying "you might change your mind" 7 years on.

You might change your mind, you might not. But focus on your current pregnancy for now.

Putting the cart before the horse here, once baby has arrived he may realise exactly how much work childrearing is & that would make you reassess wanting to do this 3 times! Shelve talk of siblings for now, to enjoy your baby once they arrive. You must be feeling very uncomfortable right now, so close to due date & understandably not wanting to go through it again! However time can change these feelings. I am not saying you will change your mind, but it is possible, many do. As long as he is not pestering you with talk about future kids, then agreeing to shelve this discussion for at least a year or two may change both of your perspectives on this issue.

Thank you guys for your answers. Just need to shelve it and wait I think and try not to focus on it too much.

My partner might change his mind and I might change mine, time will tell!

Thank you!

I'm pregnant with my third and can honestly say if this was my first I would not be going through it again.
Of course you might change your mind but it's your body. Your husband shouldn't want you to suffer just so he can have more children.
Be honest and tell him that you don't want any more children. If you want you can say you might change your mind but that might make things difficult if you don't.
Your husband wants don't trump yours, especially when you are the one suffering.