To not answer the phone to ex

[Notyourmumma]

Exdp hasn't had very much contact with dc, which I'm not happy about.
He text yesterday saying he would call at 11, but as yet still hasn't called. My question is do I answer or not if he does call now?

I know myself it sounds pretty and would like for my dc to speak to him, but over the last few years he has notoriously done things like this, set a time to collect or call and either turns up late or not at all and it upsets dc. I haven't told them he was calling today so they won't know any different.

Are the children old enough to answer if he does call?

Are the children old enough to be asked if they'd like to talk to him? I'd let them decide

Yes, be the bigger person and answer.

How old is your kid? Could you get them to pick up the phone and avoid your ex completely?

Yes they're old enough to answer and they would like to speak to him. I don't know if I'm looking into this too much, but they've been really upset the past few weeks over him and I'm not sure if a call today will help if he's not going to be consistent.

I haven't spoken to him on the phone for some time and only have text conversations, so it's not about me avoiding him. I usually answer and give the phone to dc.

I would ask them if they want to speak to him or not.

I do get it though OP, my dd's dad spoke to her a week and a half ago and said "ring you tomorrow". She's still waiting.

A couple of hours, crikey my children are still waiting after he said he would phone at Christmas!

Haha @spanieleyes He has spoken to them once this year!

Did he call OP?

@Jokie, he called at 7pm I answered as the dc wanted to speak with him, really wish I hadn't as it caused a whole heap of drama. Ds1 had a major meltdown and didn't go to bed until 3am
Ds2 has been upset on and off since.

I don't know what he said to them, but his excuse was he was at work which is why he didn't call. I know he's lying as a friend works for the same company and they are still closed.

I'm sorry that it's caused so much upset :(

Thank you @Jokie
I'm sure they'll be fine, emotions are running high at the moment anyway. We'll just have to see how long he leaves it for the next call.