To let my dm in my garden

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Ok...my grandad has died and we need to sort the funeral. My dm lives alone and wants to discuss the arrangements face to face ~ We've tried doing things over the phone but she is really struggling with no support.

She's asked if I will open my back gate and let her sit In my garden two metres or more away from me so we can go through the arrangements and write the eulogy together. She wouldn't be touching anything apart from her bum on one of my garden chairs.

Thoughts?

I've done this with a friend, for no other reason than for a chat. It may be officially against lockdown rules, but she comes in via the side gate and we sit on the grass keeping about 4-5m away from each other at all times. I think we need to find viable means of continuing social distancing longer term, and this for me is what it looks like. There's a sodding national 'have a socially distanced VE celebration with all the neighbours' (and associated tub-thumping) coming up, and nobody seems to be up in arms about that. One friend in a garden is imo significantly safer than a whole street on their doorsteps.

Sorry, I meant to add 'so of course it's more than fine in your position', but got carried away getting cross at the logical inconsistencies in lockdown advice

In your situation I would do it, I'm sorry for your loss

We don't have the room/spare bed for her to move in unfortunately, I think she will cope ok if she can come here to chat, I've cooked her some food to take back (she doesn't live far away)

I’d let her in the house, never mind the garden!

Definitely do it, I'm sorry, it's an utterly crap time to lose anyone.

We're in a similar position, MIL has just been put on end of life care. BIL (single) and DH just need to be together. See your mum, and look after each other .