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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Tomorrow will be a better day.

12 replies

wheelsonthebus88 · 05/05/2020 16:29

Just need a rant really, if anyone else has had a bad day feel free to join!

I'm still working full time (WFH for the foreseeable at least). DH is off for 2 weeks (shift work and the way his shifts fall) 1 DD (3)

As DH is off, he has agreed that he will do the majority of looking after DD so i can focus on work. Prior to him being on days off I have been juggling work and childcare so it's been nice to be able to focus on work. His days off started yesterday.

All I have heard for the last 2 days is DH moanng/shouting/telling DD off as she isn't listening. After nearly 7 weeks at home she is missing the routine of nursery (she normally goes full time), her friends, and the fact I can't play with her all day.

I have had a couple of calls and we have agreed that when the office door is closed I'm on a call so she can't come in.

Had a really important call this afternoon so specifically asked DH to make sure he was watching DD. About 10 minutes into it I heard what I thought sounded like DD shouting for help but could see DH sitting in the garden so assumed it wasn't her (we have children either side of us and sometimes hear them calling) after a few more minutes I could still hear shouting so I had to leave the call to find out what was going on, to find DH had fallen asleep and DD had got herself locked in the upstairs bathroom and was hysterical at this point! All while I was meant to be on a call where I was due to present something!

After calming DD down, woke DH up told him I would be down shortly and retreated to my office, to find the call had finished!

Have already had the conversation with my manager about how unprofessional that was and that they will have to now re do the call tomorrow (they were also sympathetic as they have 2 young children as well) and have had a row with DH about how he couldn't even stay awake for an hour to let me work! Also feeling like an awful parent for not realising my child was stuck in the bathroom for so long!

Tomorrow will be better!

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StCharlotte · 05/05/2020 16:31

Tomorrow will be better.

(Was he suitably apologetic?)

SpnBaby1967 · 05/05/2020 16:52

I would have been fucking furious!!

LovingLola · 05/05/2020 16:57

Your last thread about him painted him as utterly useless. This one confirms it.

Yelllow · 05/05/2020 17:05

Lol, how will tomorrow be better? He will suddenly grow up overnight and become a good parent????

CanofCant · 05/05/2020 17:26

PP piqued my interest so I took a look at your other thread. He expected you to be able to work from home and take care of your DD while he was working out of the house but now he is off he can't manage it himself?

I'm not sure what it would take to turn him into a less selfish person but tbh I'm not sure if I could be arsed to try.

He has made you look bad at work and could have put DD at risk.

wheelsonthebus88 · 05/05/2020 18:41

He was apologetic but more annoyed that I had woken him up and couldn't just deal with the situation and then while I was back on the call continued to tell dd off for going upstairs without us (we do let her go up and down on her own but she tells us when is normally)

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woodhill · 05/05/2020 18:45

I hate that attitude that you were unprofessional. What could you do

Should you have ignored your dd. Not fair. Your dh was being selfish

CanofCant · 05/05/2020 18:47

He had the audacity to fall asleep yet he was annoyed you woke him up? He sounds like a prick. He could have been doing the housework he was so insistent that you do.

opticaldelusion · 05/05/2020 18:59

Did your employer call you unprofessional?

wheelsonthebus88 · 06/05/2020 15:46

Unprofessional was implied, it was more of I expect better. However have had the chat with my boss today who has since apologised (they were on edge about a stressful deadline and has admitted that they would have done the same)

Today hasn't been that much better. DH didn't sleep well last night. I got up early for my run and he has been moaning at me for everything ever since. I have been snapped at because I didn't open he curtain properly, Because I didn't fill the water filter up. Because I decided I would come out of the home office and work downstairs to spend some time with DH & DD - i'm clearly not trusting him.

Pretty much at the point of giving up!

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Khione · 06/05/2020 16:04

Not surprising he didn't sleep well if he's that far asleep in the afternoon he's upset about being woken up.

YouAndMeAndTheDevilMakesThree · 06/05/2020 16:10

Wow OP, sounds looks you're having a tough time Flowers

So far today my toddler pooped his pants in the middle of us doing baking together (ordinarily he'd be in nursery 5 days a week so I'm finding doing activities like baking stressful enough as it is). Also the cat pissed on the hob AngryAngryAngry

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