To be upset by this?

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I went to visit the cemetery today for a special anniversary and when I got there I was shocked to find a tonne of soil had been dumped right on the grave from a nearby grave, the headstone was completely covered and wasn't even visible, I couldn't even get anywhere near it. I thought the grave had been dug up for a moment. I approached an attendant (at a safe distance) who was working on the other side of the cemetery and asked what was going on and when it would be moved. I'm upset by his response which was 'what do you want us to do, there's nothing we can do, we are very busy with covid deaths you know'. I walked away but I felt like he was very rude and less than compassionate and aibu to think that they could have at least put a sign up explaining what was happening and that they were sorry for the inconvenience?

Wow. That's shocking and must have been very upsetting for you.

What a horrible response from him. OP his response was not ok. Fair enough that they are super busy but for him not to apologise or be respectful was totally out of order. I would email the local council, if it's council owned

Gosh that's terrible. Take a photo and email whichever authority is responsible. If it's soil from a newly dug plot, the authority will need to follow up with the gravediggers. Sorry you saw it like this.

The head stone from a grave nearby had been removed and was just left lying on the grass as well. I don't think covid is a sufficient excuse for such carelessness

I have taken photographs and I am going to email my local council. I just wondered if I was overreacting to be upset by it. It just felt like he'd been buried under all the stuff and forgotten about.

This is pretty much exactly what it was like.

It's unfortunate, but I suspect if you'd gone back a day or two later it would all be okay again. Presumably where someone has a reserved space to be buried with a relative, there will not necessarily be "spare" ground nearby to put the soil on.

How did you ask, OP? If you asked ‘What’s going on?’ as your first question maybe that came across rude at a time when they’re struggling with COVID-19 deaths?

I think it’s just an unfortunate incident , perhaps he’s not a very articulate person . As you are only supposed to be out for essential trips/ travel I don’t suppose he expected to be confronted by a member of the public .

@Floralnomad My council have reopened cemeteries for people to visit in the last week, so assume that's now ok on the essential list?

This is usual practice....where else do u think the mud goes?