This is not OK surely?

[Bobbins2015]

DH has declared that he will not help homeschool the children. We are both working from home. He told me from day 1 it was up to me but he wouldn’t help. I am left to juggle my work around trying to see to the kids. In the last few weeks if I ask for help, the school work doesn’t get done or he just takes them out for half an hour. Seriously pulling my hair out.

If my partner told me his work was a priority, I would tell him that in order for me to hold down two jobs currently (mine and that of a teacher) I would be putting in a formal request to my employer for part-time hours with immediate effect as clearly my work is not a priority (I know that might not be financially viable).

Sadly this lockdown has shown the very best and very worst in people.

This is totally unacceptable and unfair.

If he earns the lion's share of the household income and his employer is less flexible than yours, then he has a bit of a point. If you earn similar amounts and have similar prospects and have similarly understanding employers then he is an appalling husband and father for not helping out.

He has been beyond helpful today. Me growling at his response earlier obviously got through. But this will come up again I know. To answer some Questions.. I earn more than him; our employers have been equally wonderful. The kid’s schoolwork is not hard to sort. What annoys me the most is the lack of any kind of interest. There’s no ‘right kids what are we doing today.’If I didn’t do it I’m pretty sure he’d let them chill all day. I’m no control freak I just think we need a bit of structure. I’m trying my best but you know, on shitty days it gets me down. Why should it be all down to me? He just doesn’t get it.

OTOH if your "grand plan" is to at least replicate school he may have a point. I know at least one parent who is furloughed, loves a project and has timetabled their kids to within an inch of their lives with educational activities. I'm sure that if they could they would get Ofsted in to inspect them in the expectation of getting an outstanding rating.