Attractive and chemistry in real life

[quaylock]

I'm a little worried about a situation that I have with a man, online.
We really like what we know of each other and talk and text regularly throughout the day.
He is incredibly interesting and We click. I would dearly love to meet him but that's off the table until lockdown ends.
My worry is that when we meet, the chemistry won't be there . From the photos that he has sent me,I do find him attractive.
I don't know why I'm even worried but would appreciate any experiences or thoughts on this thanks.

Anyone ?

I think you are worrying needlessly. You may feel instant chemistry you may not. Even if you don’t feel it can grow. Give him a chance.

Don't promise him anything
Don't get into sexting
Try and talk on the phone

Otherwise just enjoy yourself!

Have you spoken on zoom/FaceTime?

Thanks.why not sexting ? We talk a lot and I love his company. I guess I am worrying needlessly?

No video chat yet as we both have kids and no support at the moment.we are aiming for this next week.

From experience physical attraction really matters and long online-only connections are likely to be a tricky adjustment to the real thing. But also not impossible. I'd agree with trying video calls.

Because you haven’t met him and, frankly, the picture you have seen might not be him! He might be a 15 year old schoolboy (or girl!). You just don’t know.

Best not to get into soul-baring conversations before you actually meet somebody. Keep it light and don’t talk or text every day. If there is a spark he can deal with not having your full undivided until you are able to meet in person.

Thanks. That was my worry. He is not my usual type but I like him so much from the amount of time we've spoken since we met , on the phone that I find his photos more attractive as time goes by! That possibly sounds strange.

I mean, yes, you might not have chemistry in person. You can't know til you meet him, and unfortunately, that's going to be a little while off. I don't see an issue with sexting, but I wouldn't be sending any sexy pics (or at the very least not with your face/identifying features in!) or doing sexy video calls with someone you've never met - as a PP says there is a chance he's not who he says he is.

I agree and that's why we are arranging video calls. Otherwise I've done all the google and social
Media searches and he is who he says he is from that end.

I quite like the idea of sexting etcetera but t just words no pictures.

Don’t get too invested at this stage OP, just take it as a nice chat friendship. Don’t sext if you can help it either, until you know much more about him.

What if you exchange a load of saucy text messages then when you meet him you don’t fancy him, or he wears terrible clothes or talks about his love of Sheena Easton or trainspotting? You will be mortified. Step back!