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Takeaway food for delivery time piss take

57 replies

BewilderedPiskie · 03/05/2020 22:02

Hi.
My first post having found SOOO many things in this area in the past unbearable but let it go. I do not think I am an unreasonable person but I like to be able to eat when hungry. (I accept this is very first world).

My husband is laissez-faire about takeaway delivery. He will order through whichever delivery company shouts the loudest and pay no attention to arrival time and I'm afraid tonight for me was the last straw. I am happy to get in touch with the "alleged food provider" on his behalf if stuff doesn't arrive or is substandard even though I am not the official recipient of the order but often (like tonight) he hasn't even got a vague sense of what he should be willing to accept or when!

I was drawn in when he suggested kebabs at 6.20 pm and placed the order for immediate delivery. Should be ASAP from a local provider via Food Hub according to the delivery but when it gets to 8.40 pm and I lose my fucking shit because it is yet to arrive and I am ravenous I am treated as mentally unstable because I think it might be sensible to call the provider and find out why the food has not arrived. He literally WILL NOT take responsibility for this and behaves as though I am a mad woman for even wanting to know when our food might arrive. Since the order has been placed through his account I have no official info about when the food should have arrived or the contact details to get in touch. I end up making myself a cheese sandwich as he refuses to get in touch with the provider about when it's due and I am cross with him because of his lack of interest in sorting it out. The order eventually arrived but am I being unreasonable with to be mad at him for not trying to sort it out before the timescale became ridiculous and having to feed myself with something FAR less tasty due to massive hunger!!!!

We mainly eat good healthy home cooked food so such a decision should be a treat and an indulgence NOT a stress.

OP posts:
Ontheboardwalk · 03/05/2020 22:36

A takeaway once a week here but would always order collect online/by phone as really couldn’t cope with the wait and uncertainty on when it would turn up. When I order food I want it NOW 😂

Feel your pain and frustration OP but these are strange times we live in. I’ve resisted ordering a takeaway during lock down even though I really want one because I'd get annoyed waiting for it

Hope you enjoyed it when it turned up

Sonichu · 03/05/2020 22:37

😳

nerdgirl47 · 03/05/2020 22:38

I've had no end of takeaway rage over the past few weeks. A few weeks ago I couldn't get through anywhere. Every single Chinese, Indian, pizza place I tried was engaged continually. I suspect most were unable to cope with anymore orders so took the phone off the hook. I got through to one who took my whole order then said actually I'm really sorry but the boss says no more orders right now. Totally hangry by this point.

The following week I thought I'd be clever and get my order in as soon as they opened anticipating at least a 1.5 hour wait time. Because we were so early the takeaway arrived within half an hour when neither me, dp or the kids wanted it yet.

It is annoying. More so because with nothing else to look forward to a weekend takeaway has become a bit of a highlight. But i suppose we all need to cut them a bit of slack at the moment.

Herpesfreesince03 · 03/05/2020 22:39

Just order the food yourself op 🙄

Herpesfreesince03 · 03/05/2020 22:39

Though it won’t come any quicker at that time on the weekend during lockdown

Prisonbreak · 03/05/2020 22:42

I don’t understand people ordering takeaway food just now. If the person who made it is not allowed in your home for 10 seconds, then why on earth would you consume something they took time making?

Dinosforall · 03/05/2020 22:44

Weirdly everything has sped up around here. We have orders arriving within 20 mins at the moment when it's usually an hour or so.

PrincessConsueIaBananaHammock · 03/05/2020 22:44

Does your husband have form for this? Not just with food delivery but in general.

Tbh I don't think you're that unreasonable,especially since he could see you were getting annoyed and he couldn't even be arsed to give you some details about the original order like estimated arrival time. Most places will message as well if they are running late.

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BewilderedPiskie · 03/05/2020 22:46

@SunflowerSeedsForever Sun 03-May-20 22:26:54

Yawn

Daily Mail fodder again?

Honestly do not know what you mean. Why is me being cross at my DH about his takeaway mismanagement anything to do with the unconscionable rag that is Daily Mail?

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Pomegranatemolasses · 03/05/2020 22:47

Just order your own food Op. Sounds like a crazy situation - did your dh deny you access to the confirmation email/forbid you to contact them?

If so, you've deeper issues.

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BewilderedPiskie · 03/05/2020 22:57

@pomegranitemolasses

I don't believe we have deeper issues. He just doesn't seem to get his kind of floopy pay no attention to what the place has said about delivery is frustrating and then is the very dismissive of my need to know when /if I might be eating.

OP posts:
AmelieTaylor · 03/05/2020 23:01

Have you tried speaking like a normal person, it might get you further.

Gingerkittykat · 03/05/2020 23:02

My local Indian is taking a couple of hours to deliver or you can pick up in about 20 minutes. They are obviously struggling with the volume of deliveries, especially since we are in a village and the chippy and Chinese are closed so it is the only option.

p.s. do you have a neighbour who likes to shout ballsack at regular intervals?

Carrie7469 · 03/05/2020 23:05

You lost me at "I lose my fucking shit". Calm down and get some perspective

TheFormidableMrsC · 03/05/2020 23:05

Operating takeaways are overwhelmed currently. I ordered a midweek curry for one last week at 5.30 pm. It arrived at 9.30 pm. THAT is a long time. I didn't complain because the delivery driver looked like he was about to have a nervous breakdown. So many delivering restaurants are not operating currently and it piles the pressure on the ones who are. I get why you're upset but I would take the advice of others and open your own account so you have some control over it.

amusedbush · 03/05/2020 23:08

We’ve ordered three takeaways (twice through Just Eat, once on the takeaway’s website) since lockdown started and all have been delivered within 40 minutes. Apparently people around here aren’t ordering much food!

SuckingDownDarjeeling · 03/05/2020 23:08

Ha, this really made me laugh OP 😊 of course I think when you've eaten and calmed down you'll feel the total opposite of rage but it's so nice to see someone venting their Hanger! I think this will be one of the things you look back it in years to come and say 'remember when I lost my shit over a takeaway during lockdown?'. You're human and humans get hungry, and hangry, and I can only imagine how that would ramp up if you have a partner who is so laissez-faire while you're chomping at the bit! YANBU to vent, let it out!

Sparklingplasters · 03/05/2020 23:10

Ramadan could be part of the issue

Rosebel · 03/05/2020 23:12

We are quite lucky as we have a take away we can collect from. We just go in, order, wait and bring the food home. I couldn't be bothered to order one.
I get you OP. You aren't angry about the wait but the fact your partner didn't ask how long it would take and for that you ANBU. If you'd been angry at the take away you would be. I'd order yourself from now on.

PawPawNoodle · 03/05/2020 23:12

I waited nearly 2 hours for a pizza ordered at 10pm on a Saturday a few weeks back (in London too, the horror). They are non-stop busy at the moment and it's really just tough shit if you're 'hangry'.

You could have called them and asked about the delivery for 123 Emotionally-Volatile Avenue and they would have updated you.

BlueJava · 03/05/2020 23:12

Perhaps order your own so you can control the arrival time better or keep food on standby.

AnxiousBear · 03/05/2020 23:13

I would have struggled with hanger too! We are ordering with an understanding that it is likely to be very late (and having a small snack if need be). I wouldn’t complain or chase given everyone is struggling with Covid, but next time you order bear in mind the unpredictability. It would have frustrated me too though!

Wtfdidwedo · 03/05/2020 23:18

My takeaway places are all fairly quiet thankfully but I imagine adjusting catering operations to try to allow social distancing has been almost impossible in most locations. Any restaurants trying to keep their employees as separate as possible are likely to have serious delays on their orders, hence why lots of places have said they're offering reduced menus etc.

CJsGoldfish · 03/05/2020 23:19

The ravenousness just kind of creeps up on you until you are all of a sudden without reason

WTF?
Surely no one really gets like that because they haven't eaten for a few hours? Isn't 'hangry' just another one of those made up justifications for acting a certain way?

Anyway, The cheese sandwich was a nice PA move and I do agree that one of you should have contacted them to get an update on arrival time/seen what the hold up was.

OmgThereAreNoPlanesAboveMeNow · 03/05/2020 23:24

A few weeks ago I couldn't get through anywhere. Every single Chinese, Indian, pizza place I tried was engaged continually. I suspect most were unable to cope with anymore orders so took the phone off the hook

Many I know end up doing this and turning off online ordering at times to get on top of the number of orders they already have. As I said, it's incredibly busy time for them now