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Original poster

To be angry at old bully adding me on social media!

28 replies

summerrose11 · 03/05/2020 20:49

This girl was in the year above me at school. For some reason, well i say some reason i think she liked me boyfriend i was with at the time, anyway she used to call me names such as stuck up bitch, cow, look at her she thinks shes amazing. Trying to flirt my boyfriend in front of me to wind me up and ignore me while i was stood there with him. I was so timid and shy in high school, hardly had any friends. Didnt think i was amazing but she scared me and i dreaded everytime i would see her and her group of friends in the corridors.
I havent had to really see her since school but obviously we know the same people from school.
She has just followed me on instagram, i had a quick nose and its some stupid MLM beauty page where shes selling face creams, body lotions and her tips and tricks.
AIBU to be angry!? She couldn't care less about me at school but now she wants me to buy into this MLM and maybe buy off of her or even worse join her team! Does she not remember how mean she was to me? I'm fuming.

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RJnomore1 · 03/05/2020 20:51

YANBU but she probably doesn’t even remember or realise and if she does she will have justified it to herself long ago.

Nice to see she’s doing well with her MLM career though isn’t it?

Dialdownthedrama · 03/05/2020 20:52

Just block her.

CliveIsAlive · 03/05/2020 20:53

I understand where you are coming from as it sounds as though she made your school life quite horrible for a period. But I assume this was a fair few years ago now? I would either just delete the request or accept and put her on limited view.

rattusrattus20 · 03/05/2020 20:53

There's probably quite a lot of commonality to the values and skill sets that are needed to do well in MLMs & in the world of playground bullying.

Don't waste emotoinal bandwidth being angry but insta-block her & don't give it a second thought, dismiss her approach as the silly bot-generated spam which it, in a very real sense, is.

RealLifeHotWaterBottle · 03/05/2020 20:53

Time to review your security settings I think.

She probably doesn't remember being vile at all. I think you are right and it does sound like it was driven by jealousy. Block her and move on?

redwinefine · 03/05/2020 20:57

She's living rent free in your head. IGNORE/ block and delete

Original poster
summerrose11 · 03/05/2020 20:57

Yes i will be blocking her, part of me wants to see what she posts because MLM's are quite laughable. But she isnt really worth my time. I've hardly thought about her over the years but when it popped up i just thought, you have some cheek!

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Likethebattle · 03/05/2020 20:58

I’d add her and have some fun!

Thurmanmurman · 03/05/2020 20:58

I'd call her out and ask why she's adding you when she bullied you at school. Give her a dressing down. Not for everyone but that's what I'd do!

Takemebackto · 03/05/2020 21:03

Been in the same situation I just blocked them.

Takemebackto · 03/05/2020 21:03

Though I understand it brings back feelings.

YetiAnotherNameChange · 03/05/2020 21:13

I'm sorry you were bullied. I'm sure it was awful seeing her name pop up unexpectedly like that.
Just block her and move on. Try not to let her into your head any more.

Truthpact · 03/05/2020 21:13

I think all social media should add a button for situations like this that just sends a laughing face and saying 'you must be joking?' then blocks them.

MorganKitten · 03/05/2020 21:14

My old bully added me on Facebook and sent me messages about how she’d changed. I didn’t respond or add her.

CountryPlumpkin · 03/05/2020 21:16

Just block. I’ve been there - don’t give them any more of your time Smile

chockaholic72 · 03/05/2020 21:19

Mine was a nurse on my ward when I was admitted after a car crash. I’m a much stronger person than I was when I was 16, and she didn’t scare me - she didn’t scare me then; she just picked on me a lot and stirred up stuff to leave me out of things, and was a really mean child from when I was five all the way through to sixteen. I made it very clear that either they move her to another ward, or move me, or I’d be discharging myself. So they moved me. I was ill and in pain and just didn’t want to have to deal with her.

Pedallleur · 03/05/2020 21:22

Someone I worked with had a bully issue at school. It came to a head and end in woodwork when after the bully stood on the toe of his victims polished shoe the victim picked up a wooden mallet and slammed it down on the bullys hand that was resting on the bench. Years later, my fiend saw the bully on Facebook reminiscing about the great days at school so my friend just posted 'are you still bullying people?' and left it at that.

Ifonlywecouldwishuponastar · 03/05/2020 21:26

I have been quite surprised how many of the 'bitches' from my year, are actually lovely people now. I've had so many nice comments, despite not being very popular when I was at school. However, if you feel this person hasn't changed it is probably best to block her.

UnabashedlyNeurodifferent · 03/05/2020 21:32

You could accept and then ignore her whenever she says anything to you. Give her the old cold shoulder revenge.

I agree some people do forget how they were with others in the past and could just have added you as a familiar face. Who knows?

UnabashedlyNeurodifferent · 03/05/2020 21:33

Or just decline the request and carry on with your life.

Brefugee · 03/05/2020 21:45

Decline and move on.

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summerrose11 · 03/05/2020 21:51

I am going to ignore her. She's followed me and im not following her so i wont see what she posts. Looking at the people she's chosen to follow is mainly mums. Like i'm going to buy into the MLM stuff.

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YouokHun · 03/05/2020 23:41

Well there’s your revenge for all her nastiness: she’s drawn one of life’s short straws and is spending her time being scammed by the MLM she’s signed up to, probably losing money and friends at a rate of knots. Probably not the sharpest knife in the drawer. Don’t waste any time on her.

Isawamagpie · 03/05/2020 23:48

Firstly she's doing MLM Grin how very sad and pathetic. Tells you something about her life.
Secondly, don't bother blocking IMO it shows you're still affected by her.
I would decline the request and just move on, is there is anyway you can make it so she's not following you also?

There's so many reasons I hate social media, and dragging up forgotten pasts is right up there.

Try not to give it further head space. I doubt she even considered whose she's adding, just playing a numbers game to get people into MLM

Holothane · 03/05/2020 23:56

Block her and forget you’ve got your life she’s not a part of it now.

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