to sleep train my toddler?

[ShambalaHambala]

I'm conflicted. No idea where to start. 18 month old sleeps in bed with me. Still fed to sleep. This is fine and I love having him in my bed. He wakes up 1-3 times in the night and is always breastfed back to sleep. The ONLY reason I want to sleep train him to sleep in a cot is so I can leave him overnight with someone else such as my mum so I can have a night off occasionally. My mum would like this too. Is it really hard to sleep train a boob dependant 18 month old who co-sleeps? I'm seeing someone at the moment, no sex yet and have never stayed the night. It might go nowhere but again I would like the freedom to leave my son and stay elsewhere... Why do I feel so guilty? Help.

I have just sleep trained my 2 year old so a bit older. But she's taken to it so well. At the moment she still boobs to sleep but she has stopped boobing during the night now and her sleep has got so much better.

I followed www.drjaygordon.com/blog-detail/sleep-changing-patterns-in-the-family-bed

I sleep trained my dd when she was 12 months old to stop the hourly wakes for breastfeeding. It was a tough few nights but worth it.

Is it really awful? Thank you for the link

I ebfd, fed ds to sleep etc. I had a night away when he was 11 months old and he was fine with my mum. If you're not there, it's quite possible they won't want what they usually get from you. So maybe give an overnighter with your mum a try before you go down the sleep training route.

I just know that it would be way too stressful for my mum to just leave him with her. I feel like if he was younger it would have been ok but at 18 months it would definitely be traumatic!

DS has slept much better since night weaning, at 18 months he doesn't need a feed overnight unless he has health issues that prevent him from eating properly. Offer a good feed before bed and a cup of water if he wakes in the night instead, he'll likely get bored of that very quickly. If DS is poorly or teething and wakes up in the night and won't settle he still comes in with us but it's not that often. I actually miss the sweaty little cuddles especially when I'm at work and he's at home in his cot