Sorry people this is a long one.... First time posting.
The relationship between me and my ex wife (still married) has been good and we have 2 kids (10+12) I see them for a few hours in the week and they stop over with me Friday night and sometimes Saturday night.
She has been in a relationship with a guy who lives 40 miles for over a year and I'm happy for her (I really am as our relationship broke down without anyone being involved (guess just one of those things)) but since the corona19 lockdown she has been going to see him (he lives in a tower block on his own), I asked her that she really shouldn't be going to see him while in lockdown and she is a key worker (3 days a week in a supermarket) and whilst I am still going to work (I work in construction) my parents have been in lockdown for 6wks and I do shopping for them, I am very conscious of the social distancing and the cleaning of hands.
BUT when I asked my ex if she had been to see her boyfriend over Easter she said no, I suspected she was lying so asked my daughter to ask her when I took the kids back, the next day my daughter told me that yes she had gone but to drop off Easter eggs!
When questioned again about it she went mad telling me it is non of my business and in future only EVER speak to her or contact her if its about the kids!
And that she and her boyfriend are carful and wash their hands but I still refused to have contact for 7days to be on the safe side which she said I was being stupid and over reacting and the kids will suffer by not seeing me!
So now the relationship is very hard and the kids notice the friction (which doesn't help with thier grandmother slagging me off for poking my nose into stuff that doesn't concern me).
Now once again this weekend I am 99% sure she has gone to her boyfriends again this weekend.
I need advice on do I again have a 7 day isolation away from the kids or am I really just over reacting, it would be devistating if I was to become ill and I'm sure it would kill my parents if either of them got it.
I have no interest in sticking my nose into her business but I fear that this breakdown between us is going to get very ugly if I start being difficult.....I love my kids they really are my world but I live in a 2 bed house and they are mixed sex and I can't afford to move.
I took advise from a police friend who said I should report her as its a crime BUT I must understand that the police can't go to every incident and I should try and compromise but I feel its impossible now.
Yes I'm single but I'm not bitter just concerned about my kids and family.