to be bloody annoyed that I had to cope
jambomum · 17/09/2007 11:37
DS and I were away for a few days with my parents. DS had sickness bug and then I had it too. Felt really awful for first 2 days, then a little better.
Flew straight from my parents to M-I-L (Scotland - England) for her birthday weekend.
DH knew I was ill, picked us up from the airport and we went straight to the birthday party.
He then proceeded to drink (as did all the other guests) all afternoon and into the evening.
I insisted he stopped long enough (and early enough) to bath DS and put him to bed.
DH then continued drinking, whilst I helped tidy up party. Ultimately he fell asleep in the chair and didn't even make it up the stairs to bed. DS woke twice in the night and I had to deal with him.
The next day DH was useless (and I still felt crap). He then had wine with lunch which meant I had to drive the 120 miles home whilst they both slept in the back.
To top it all, DH was sick this morning and hasn't gone to work, claiming he now has the bug. I am here at my desk doing f/t job.
Is it OK to feel bloody annoyed?
jambomum · 17/09/2007 11:48
Thank you. I just can't believe how selfish he was. It took me all my effort to get on the plane and keep DS (2.5 yo) in check. I really thought that he would let me take it easy once I got there.
I couldn't rage at him in front of M-I-L and I just went to bed last night as I was so exhausted.
I know that the sickness bug is horrible, but I am finding it difficult to be sympathetic, when I would love to have a day in bed.
Is it too late now to have the row? Or should I be sympathetic now he is ill?
Of course I'll have to deal with DS tonight on my own as he won't feel up to is
mummytojess · 17/09/2007 11:50
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Blu · 17/09/2007 12:22
Tell him very clearly that you know how he feels, and that when you felt like that you dealt with the children while he was partying, and that you drove home while he slept - so would he please not expect you to be sympathetic. And do nothing to 'nurse' him, or keep the children quiet, etc.
jambomum · 17/09/2007 12:58
Please don't think that my DH is an alcoholic. He isn't. He's just a bloke, who occasionally feels that it is OK to act as though he is a student again.
It's just that I find it difficult to do that, as there seems to be a residual mum in me, even when I am let off the leash.
I think it's a girl/boy thing.
However I will not be sympathetic and he will have to make up for it, as we are going on holiday next Sunday and I will be reading my book and lying in the sun - a lot .
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