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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to be bloody annoyed that I had to cope

19 replies

jambomum · 17/09/2007 11:37

DS and I were away for a few days with my parents. DS had sickness bug and then I had it too. Felt really awful for first 2 days, then a little better.
Flew straight from my parents to M-I-L (Scotland - England) for her birthday weekend.
DH knew I was ill, picked us up from the airport and we went straight to the birthday party.
He then proceeded to drink (as did all the other guests) all afternoon and into the evening.
I insisted he stopped long enough (and early enough) to bath DS and put him to bed.
DH then continued drinking, whilst I helped tidy up party. Ultimately he fell asleep in the chair and didn't even make it up the stairs to bed. DS woke twice in the night and I had to deal with him.
The next day DH was useless (and I still felt crap). He then had wine with lunch which meant I had to drive the 120 miles home whilst they both slept in the back.
To top it all, DH was sick this morning and hasn't gone to work, claiming he now has the bug. I am here at my desk doing f/t job.
Is it OK to feel bloody annoyed?

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Carmenere · 17/09/2007 11:39

Permission to feel pissed off granted.

fireflyfairy2 · 17/09/2007 11:39

Yes, you have every right to feel annoyed!

When you go home sit with your feet up & insist on dh making dinner!

notnowbernard · 17/09/2007 11:41

I'd be pissed off, big-time.

mishymoo · 17/09/2007 11:42

Absolutely... I feel p'd off for you !

Dropdeadfred · 17/09/2007 11:43

yanbu, but i would have told him before lunh that he was driving home!

Sixer · 17/09/2007 11:45

yep, ok to feel bloody annoyed. Maybe you should treat yourself, after work, drop you bag home, gotta dash style. Or is it only me that would do something that nasty to a sick man?

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jambomum · 17/09/2007 11:48

Thank you. I just can't believe how selfish he was. It took me all my effort to get on the plane and keep DS (2.5 yo) in check. I really thought that he would let me take it easy once I got there.
I couldn't rage at him in front of M-I-L and I just went to bed last night as I was so exhausted.
I know that the sickness bug is horrible, but I am finding it difficult to be sympathetic, when I would love to have a day in bed.
Is it too late now to have the row? Or should I be sympathetic now he is ill?
Of course I'll have to deal with DS tonight on my own as he won't feel up to is

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maisym · 17/09/2007 11:49

next weekend plan to feel ill and have to spend the day in bed.

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jambomum · 17/09/2007 11:49

I did tell him before lunch that he was driving, but he started drinking wine (having stopped drinking whisky about 6 hours before), so there was no way he was going to be under the limit.
M-I-L thought it all quite amusing !!

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mummytojess · 17/09/2007 11:50

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kimi · 17/09/2007 11:51

Go out for the evening and then he will have to bloody cope.
Selfish git! Sod not letting rip in front of MIL, I would have been fuming.

Dropdeadfred · 17/09/2007 11:53

I would have told him and MIL what i thought of his husband and parent skills!!

Meeely2 · 17/09/2007 11:56

i would have gone nuts - yanbu.....defo plan some time out, this weekend - go shopping with friends, do lunch, preferable stay out til late so he has to do bedtime......milk it girlfriend!

fawkeoff · 17/09/2007 11:57

be pissed off all u like hun....he is a todge bag, nothing to add to that really

HomeintheSun · 17/09/2007 12:14

oh hell yes, I'd be pissed off. Is it the bug he's got or alcohol poisoning? I don't think that it's too late to have a go at him, if you're annoyed by it then you need to get it off your chest otherwise it'll fester until you burst with anger.

Peachy · 17/09/2007 12:18

YANBU

tell him he's a prat

Blu · 17/09/2007 12:22

Tell him very clearly that you know how he feels, and that when you felt like that you dealt with the children while he was partying, and that you drove home while he slept - so would he please not expect you to be sympathetic. And do nothing to 'nurse' him, or keep the children quiet, etc.

chocchipcookie · 17/09/2007 12:25

Does he often drink like that? Sounds a lot and it's affecting you and your children.

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jambomum · 17/09/2007 12:58

Please don't think that my DH is an alcoholic. He isn't. He's just a bloke, who occasionally feels that it is OK to act as though he is a student again.
It's just that I find it difficult to do that, as there seems to be a residual mum in me, even when I am let off the leash.
I think it's a girl/boy thing.

However I will not be sympathetic and he will have to make up for it, as we are going on holiday next Sunday and I will be reading my book and lying in the sun - a lot .

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