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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To have become a lazy slob?

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PrincessBSplishSplash · 02/05/2020 21:04

I am a teacher with 2 sons 8&6. In normal life before all this, it was busy, fast paced, stressful, mostly very organised with lots of nice things in our life as reward for it all.
I am currently not needed to go into school for the few children in (as I have my own children at home and husband who is a key worker). Therefore I am working from home and home schooling the children.... except I am not really doing much Blush
The boys are extremely hard to motivate to work, feel like it's just an early summer holiday and I know as a teacher that we just cannot replicate a school environment. It became a battle with stress and tears from all (though I feel the pressure to send something into teachers at the end of the day for some reason). Meanwhile I just have no motivation to do my own work. I have plenty of bits to do and I've done a few things but certainly not enough to be classed as a working weeks hours.
I also had a foot injury last week which made me feel rotten and my sleeping pattern mucked up (now going to sleep at around 2am and up around 9am, the boys always just chill out till I'm up or laying in too!)
Our mornings are lazy; tv and long breakfast, repeated requests about starting work, eventually dressing, lunch, them starting work, washing up a bit and then I might switch on the laptop for a few hours. If I leave them to do something else they will have stopped working and usually fighting.
I have no get up and go. No exercise, no cleaning other than the basics (the house is disgusting), showering every few days (always every day in real life) and sometimes I cant even be bothered with all the video calls to our wonderful family and friends.
I should mention that my work has not once put the pressure on and I have not had any badgering to do more from them. There is complete understanding made explicit it is a tricky time and we are all doing what we can. But I know I can do more and should be as I am still being fully paid for not doing much at all (meanwhile so many teachers are working harder than ever!).

So... AIBU to have become so lazy? I live in fear of 'being found out' and also that I am missing out on a great opportunity to do things I never usually have time for and some great home education for my boys (who only seem to care about video games Hmm )
Sorry for long post... first one after being just a mumsnet reader recently usually at 2am

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Delbelleber · 02/05/2020 21:10

Sounds to me like a much needed break in your busy life. It's definitely not easy to get motivated when you have kids that don't want to do anything. Take each day at a time and stop beating yourself up. Normal will be back before you know it.

FarquarKumquatsmama · 02/05/2020 21:13

Also a teacher with similar aged kids and I had thought we’d become lazy too, although we have a different routine.

Then the other day, I went through, in my head, the things we had done and had a little inner laugh that I could make one of those ‘look at me, aren’t I doing a lot!’ Facebook posts about it!

Try looking at it from the perspective of what you’ve been doing in a positive way. I mean, you must have been talking a lot; maybe your kids have learnt housework; life skills; how to mediate in a argument; how to compromise; maybe they’ve been reading more, tuning into current affairs etc..?

I admit, I was more surprised than anyone about what we’d achieved when I looked at it from this way round. Most days I feel like a slob 😂

GreenTulips · 02/05/2020 21:15

Some video games are educational

Why not go and play with them and base their learning around the games they like?

I think schools need to catch up on this a bit! Minecraft has loads of language skills and building skills plus teamwork etc

Dragonsanddinosaurs · 02/05/2020 21:21

I don't think there is any harm in not being able to do as much as you think you should but be careful that you are not slipping into depression. Try to at least shower and get out for a walk every day. You, and the DC will feel better for it, and you may find it improves your motivation for everything else a bit.

PrincessBSplishSplash · 02/05/2020 21:28

@Delbelleber very true, thank you. I think it may be back to a new 'normal' for us quite soon which will be back to busy busy as before!

@FarquarKumquatsmama ah yes, I have not thought of it in that way. I would be keen to know if you have felt you still have been able to balance WFH with your children too?

@greentulips their favourite is Minecraft Smile though their teamwork skills could probably do with some work as there is usually a very big argument and when I have tried to ask questions there are eye rolls and "you just dont get it Mum!" Haha. It does give me the few hours to get on with my work so I have to admit I have always let them just play without my involvement all this time.

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PrincessBSplishSplash · 02/05/2020 21:31

@Dragonsanddinosaurs I was wondering if this is slipping into something like that. I've never had any previous MH issues (other than normal hormonal, post birth blues etc) so it was something that I thought may be happening without noticing.

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FarquarKumquatsmama · 02/05/2020 23:29

PrincessBSplishSplash The honest answer is I am not sure. I am at a private school and am theoretically online teaching. In reality my exam classes have left and the others are at their limit wrt staring at a screen so I have been giving plenty of independent and project work. More marking and prep but less commuting. They seem ok and no parents have complained yet.
To go back to your original point, I am 100% sure that the most important thing we have learnt and achieved is how to muck along together as a family. And that is worth gold surely?

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