What would you do?

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It's been 6weeks since I saw my boyfriend and I hate it.

I have the option this week of moving in with him for the rest of lockdown/ social distancing but I don't know what to choose.

Because of our work patterns I would only see him two days a week. That's it, no other time at all. The rest of the time I would be completely alone (work alone).

If I stay where I am living with family I have people to see/interact with every day though there isn't much to talk about.

So given we don't know how long this could be for, what would you do?

As in 24/hrs alone or do you just mean daytime?

I'd stay put. Daily contact is much better for you.

Stay where you are and get on with it, just like everybody else has to.

Why would you take two days of seeing a guy over your family there whenever you need them?
You go to him, that's it. No more family contact for the foreseeable.
What happens if this is extended for the next few months? You'll be happy not seeing family again?

Do you mean you would just see him at the weekends? Would you spend every night together or do you both work shifts?

I’d stay where you are , it may only be for another couple of weeks if you are both in good health.

I wouldnt move from a secure place where i had people around me every day, to somewhere where I'd be alone most of the time.

That said, my boyfriend has moved in with me due to the lockdown, and we are pretty happy. But, we are both key workers, so out of the house all day, and see each other every night. I wouldnt like to be living essentially alone in his house.

I mean only two days, no other time. He has to stay at work 5 days a week, and the days he's back I have to work so I would get two 12 hour windows with him a week.

I just miss him so much it's driving me mad. But I had thought of everything you all said about leaving daily contact.

It's if daily contact is more important than the right contact. If that makes sense.

Stay put

That's really tough. I'd stay were I was, not just for the company but for being in my own space with my own stuff.

In your place, I'd stay put. Relationships have weathered far longer separations than you have had so far and absence does make the heart grow fonder. Just think what a wonderful reunion you'll have.

Don't take risks with health, forrandomposts.

Stay at home

I'm on my own OP, apart from the dog, and I can tell you it's lonely.

Stay where you are with your family and with your own things around you.

Sorry I've not been clear. I'd be going home and he'd be moving in with me.

At the moment I'm on lockdown with my parents on the wrong side of the country (long story) so this would be going back to my flat with all my things.

But I think a lot of you are right. It would be great at first but if this goes on for months then it will be really tough

I think stay put, too. That's an awfully long chunk of the week completely alone when you don't need to be. There must be more you can do to keep busy in your usual home, too, surely?

Think of it as being like a wartime separation with a romantic reunion at the end.

Oh. Cross-posted, sorry! That makes a difference. I guess it comes down to how gregarious you are and how much you miss having your own things around you. If you have big plans for redecorating or making curtains etc and you have all the stuff waiting, it might work. I've never been so glad of my stash of fabrics and yarn and my really bad habit of planning projects and buying materials but not getting started. 😏