Ex husband and new girlfriend in lockdown

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I became aware the ex husband has a new girlfriend in the past couple of weeks (weeks for me as hoping it means he will have less time to be a twat). Seems not. Spoke to my two DSs today and its seems today is the day his new girlfriend and daughter are going to their house so they can all meet..

There is previous emotional and financial abuse and generally he is a shit. I have had to previously involve the police as he was flouncing lock down rules and they spoke to him under "words of advice"

He is now saying you can mix in groups in up to 10 people.... nowhere in the guidelines does it say this and we are still in the same lockdown as we have for the past few weeks.

What can/do i do? We have a CAO in place and its currently his contact time.

No he cant do this, you cant mix in groups of up to 10. He is mixing households. Tell him you will tell the police

Sadly I don’t think the police will do a lot as they don’t have much of a way of enforcing this unless they actually catch them in the act. Right now I think they’re busy with other stuff.

Your ExH sounds like a neglecting piece of shit OP. The guidance does not state this at present. It’s baffling to me that anyone would put their children in harms way. The rules are there for a reason.

Before threatening him I’d make him aware of his misunderstanding ref 10 people and ask him not to put your DC at risk since to do so would be 1. Insane and 2. Illegal.

I have said that... he turned it back around and said well are you obeying the guidelines....of course I fuxking am. Like the rest of the country

Simple. Tell him they’re no longer going as he’s putting your children’s life’s at risk.

I will when I get them back.....

Hopefully all your communication is in writing as you can ask him the reference for his guidelines.

Yeah it is x

God what a selfish prick. I can only assume he's rushing this meeting because they're planning to do a 'but we can't live without each other this is a love like nobody has ever known!' rushed moving in together. Poor you.

Make sure you offer him extra time to make up exactly the contact with him your child's lost after lockdown, as then hopefully a judge won't be interested when he drags you back to Court.

If he’s in the U.K. he’s talking utter nonsense.

However I think there is something coming ireland to that effect?

Definitely keep the written evidence. Don’t let the children go back until lockdown is over as he clearly happy to put them at risk. As PP offer to allow additional time after lockdown to make up the time missed, but do not allowed him contact whilst he clearly can’t keep them safe x

We they both sound like twats.
No you aren't supposed to mix households.

Don't call the police for fucks sake.

There is no way you will not look like a bitter, jealous ex. That might not be the case but that's how it looks.

He is definitely in the wrong but there's not a lot you can do. If you ring the police he could turn around and say she's living there. They also wouldn't do much anyway.

They've know each other for 4/5 weeks max. I'm.not a a bitter ex. I remarried last year very happy. Been with my husband 4 years.

And? You're still stuck on him being a 'twat' and a 'shit' which you maybe should have moved on from for the sake of your children since it's been years since you split up and you're happy now apparently.

If you don't think you are bitter or jealous, keep reporting him to the Police for breaches of 'lockdown' but you absolutely look like you are grabbing an opportunity to 'report' him for something.

Wow. This is one of a number of things he does. I pick my battles. He is not putting the boys first is he. He is putting them at risk. We are not to mix households and he is actively doing this.

@Spaghetti123 People who mix households when we've been instructed not to are twats and shits. Doesn't matter if it's your ex, the woman over the road, the man in the shop, whatever. Shits, the lot of them. And twats.

Exactly. We have a social responsibility towards everyone.

Of course. But it's equisite is it not to have a reason to 'report' someone you already hate. Don't dress it up in social responsibilty or wanting the best for your children, it's a socially acceptable reason to exert your hatred or resentment on someone. Whether that be an ex or a neighbour.

The 'reporters' think other people don't know the motivation but it's so very clear.

It's not about my ex. It's about my children. It's about protecting them. Are you even a mother?

@Spaghetti123

You seem way more worked up about OP than she does about her ex... chill!