In bed early every night to escape

[OnTheMoors]

It's the only way I can escape the increasingly unbearable atmosphere in the house. DH is WFH and in the living room working, from 7.30 am to 4 pm. Then sitting in armchair all evening. DS is moody, difficult and draining. I spend all day motivating him to do some work and to do simple tasks, like having a shower. If we got to play football or for a walk it's always me who does it, as DH is working and has a cracked rib

YANBU. I do exactly the same!

So do i! YANBU! I can barely stand to be in the same room as DP at the moment to be honest!

Yup. As soon as dinner is cleared away I’m in the bedroom reading or on MN. And then it bed by 9.30

Right now, DS should be showering but is just sat on the staircase. Good grief

Dh and I fell out at about 5pm and I've been in bed since . Really despise him right now

I have been doing this every night. I can't bear to be around everyone constantly. Yanbu at all!

DH is a night owl and can happily stay up until 3 or 4am. I go to bed around 10 so I can get up by 6 and have several blissful hours of peace and quiet before he gets up. Everything he does is loud! I never realised how much noise he makes...

Me too!

I come up to bed sometimes at 8 .30 pm, to read/ frown/ go on mumsnet.
It gives me some time to myself and gets me out of the washing up.

YANBU so relieved came on Mumsnet cause feeling so lonely and overwhelmed and claustrophobic. DH being so horrible and basically doing NOTHING apart from work. Kids just non stop all the time and am also trying to work grrrr

How old is DS?

Why can't dh tuck himself away to work? Does this mean you can't watch tv in the living room?

I wish I could but have livestock I’ve to stay up for. ☹️

And me! Tonight has been the worst. My DD 21 is really grating, she is back from uni, although she has a job at the hospital she is sniping at me and I am pissed off. Have sat upstairs with a glass or three of Prosecco cause I have had had enough of being chief cheer leader for DH (recovered from depression), DS 18 (diagnosed with depression and anxiety) and DD21, is much better now but I suspect Asperger gets and quite high maintenance.
First time in this situation I have felt like saying fuck-it and run away to isolate on my own. ApOlogies for the rant, that is the Prosecco speaking.

I was just thinking about going to bed for the very same reason. DH is moodily slumped on the sofa and I can't see the point of staying here in tense silence when I could be in bed.

Hell yes. Dd reduces me to tears last night

Could quite happily stab my husband with a large knife.

If DS stinks leave him to stink, no teen has ever died of stink. If DH work attitude is arsey, kick him up to the bedroom for the day if you have wireless. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever that any ONE person in a house ought to be occupying the largest part of the family shared space for work UNLESS it's an internet issue. You have not signed an agreement to live in the margins of the house that you pay towards ( even with Covid) and you are not the sole gatekeeper of teen hygiene and shared family togetherness either. If the rest of the family are gravitating to their own level of comfort in this, you could do worse than finding your own as well.

Dd going back to University soon.

I will give up cooking then as it is really pissing me off.

Can I send my DD back off to uni with yours JayAlfredPrufrock.

It’s sad isn’t it but part of me can’t wait.

I know what you mean. until today it has been lovely but suddenly it has all got o. Top me, I mean really suddenly. I am sure it will pass....

It’s been lovely having her home for an extended period but ...

With you all! I’m WFH financial services Compliance so busier than ever , fine I love my job.DH decided to stop taking anti depressants just into lockdown and I did question his wisdom , but hey who am I to comment. DS 21 back from uni- resentful as he has missed the best bit of his final year, can’t see his girlfriend and basically just see him at meal times.

No gym , no shops , no strong female friendships , it’s bloody hard.I dropped a little something to my closest 3 pals tonight, those socially distanced chats tonight were like bloody oxygen to me.

But apart down all this everything is fine 🙄🤣. Just want my v vulnerable mum (COPD) and Dad to come through it ok 🙏🏻

I had three days of us not speaking last week after he went shopping or me and thinks I was being a pain in the ass when I rang while he was there asking to grab some more bits. When he came back he chucked the shopping on the floor and we had a Barney about it. Three day stand off in the end I couldn't stand the atmosphere anymore so I broke and spoke to him but yeah things can be so tense right now I don't blame you for going to bed sometimes I just want some space and it's so hard to get any it's suffocating I feel your pain

What @mayawaya said.

DH can parent his own shower refusing offspring.

DH can also fuck off out to a different room. Do you genuinely not have a bedroom or dining room or kitchen for him to work in? Even for his own good the change of scene might benefit his MH .. only half joking!

Haha, the but speaks volumes...