Getting so impatient for September

[Bells3032]

My husband started a new job in March and is on probation until September. I cannot wait for this period to be over. I am a planner by nature and I am desperate to move house which we can't even look at until he passes and has a secure job. There's a house on the market we've had our eye but is out of scope for us until then.

We want to start a family but have to wait on that too.

So no activities due to lock down and no ability to plan anything til September.

First world problems I know but patience is wearing super thin now. ahhhhh. I want to start moving forward now!!

Personally I wouldn't be banking anything on September yet either.

Make no plans and then you won't be disappointed.

Probation means nothing really. You can be fired in the first two years for no reason.

If lockdown has taught me anything, it’s that I used to be like you. Impatient for the next part of my life to happen.
I won’t be like that anymore. I don’t want to wish my life away. I will live for today

He can be dismissed within two years easily so probation doesn’t really mean much.

It sounds like it’s all on him to make your wants happen re house, TTC etc but you can do things too.

Being in probation does matter for mortgages, and it’s a sensible thing to consider when TTC. I don’t know why people are being snarky (except that it’s AIBU and people always are).

During probation he can be dismissed with like a week's notice. post probation its two months notice except for gross misconduct plus it's a significant pay raise once he gets there so we said we'd wait on both fronts.

As for it being on him and not me not sure what I should be doing - I am working in a good solid, secure job, trying to keep fit, keeping my eye out for any deals etc.

@Prisonbreak thank you! I've been feeling an unusual (for me) kind of peace since this all started, I've not really able to articulate it though. I think you've just done it for me!

OP, I think it's okay to have little 'checkpoints' right now, just perhaps with a realistic consideration

I'm just frustrated and feeling impatient. Moving would also mean being closer to my family and I am getting very impatient for that

Solidarity OP!

I’m in your exact boat - DH started new job in Feb and comes off probation with salary increase in July.

There’s loads I want to to - move house, book holidays and potentially resume TTC (we stopped due to Covid but lockdown has made us reconsider and potentially want to travel more instead!).

In a weird way I’m glad his job has put the brakes on all our plans as it makes it easier with Covid stopping anything, as we couldn’t plan anyway!

September will whiz round anyway - can’t believe it’s May already.

I can see why you’d wait based on the pay rise but I recently was approved for a mortgage while on probation (now passed thankfully!) if that helps your thinking at all!

You might be able to at least start speaking to lenders / brokers If that would would help your impatience :)

I am waiting to TTC until Sept as well as by then I will be eligible for much better maternity package from my employer. But its the only thing I can think about at the moment!!! hope this is just a phase or lockdown boredom making me this way.

Good luck OP!

@sunflowery I think I am the total opposite. before lockdown I was dying to travel more and wait to conceive, but lockdowns made me think what's most important to me and it's my family who I am missing like crazy!!! made me re-evaluate what I want. I want to be closer to my family and have kids etc. that's the stuff I'd regret never doing.

I would consider if buying now even with covid and the probation but there is nothing coming on the market.