Expletives within earshot of the kids

[shesgrownhorns]

DH is a mild mannered sort, but when he, say, drops something, or something won't work - he is liable to say 'ah you fg c , or words to that effect. He does this within earshot of the dc and I really really hate it. It also makes me very anxious (he knows this) as my upbringing was violent and very shouty. This is the extent of it, he never loses his temper with any of us and is very tolerant of my anxieties in general. But he continues to do this. I've asked him not to and he says 'well it's not directed at you, it's just my frustration'

Am I being controlling if I make a big deal of it?

I very occasionally will let a swear word slip, usually when I hurt myself badly or when I drop something and it’s almost always just shit rather than anything more serious. I definitely wouldn’t shout cunt around my DC and I don’t do it often.

Thing is, you can't stop them hearing words. If you're out in public and someone says it, bunch of kids on a bus or something, they'll learn the words so as pp have said it's just about teaching them when it is and isn't appropriate. I teach teenagers and develop a certain amount of selective deafness at school if they are just chatting with their mates. If it's shouted or directed at someone however then I step in. They are in the end, just words.

We swear in front of ds.He knows its adult language and never repeats it.

My parents were sweary, and I was taught at an early age that these were words that a lot of people find offensive and that I must never say "fuck" at school, in front my DGM or my Auntie Eileen!

I think as long as kids learn that there are circumstances where it's not acceptable, it's fine, tbh.