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Original poster

To be a bit annoyed at Mum for this

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 12:59

My mum came over around Easter weekend and brought us Easter eggs. Didn’t come in but left them on the doorstep along with some other stuff that I gave to her years ago. Some make up bits like eyelashes and sponges (open packs of sponges) that I left for her when I moved out 5 years ago as she said she’d use them and a board game DH bought for them a couple of Christmases ago.

It just seems a bit cheeky because I know she’s dropped them here as they’re decluttering. I wouldn’t use the sponges on my face now years later and the board game was a gift. Plus now is not the time! I’ve only just looked at it as I tried not to touch it for at least a week...

I also had told her she didn’t need to come over with Easter eggs. I’d had easter treats delivered directly to their house from John Lewis and told her I didn’t need one in return when she asked what I wanted. It’s all the other crap though that’s she’s brought here unnecessarily during a pandemic FGS.

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 12:59

Same mother is also in v vulnerable category so shouldn’t even be going anywhere.

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OldEvilOwl · 01/05/2020 13:19

How far did she travel to do this?

Cherrysoup · 01/05/2020 13:37

Just bin what you don’t want/food bank etc. I’d be cross about the board game. If she didn’t want it, she could have kept it for a charity. Bit bloody rude to send back a gift like that. Have you spoken to her?

nymrgn · 01/05/2020 13:39

Do you think she may have left the bored game as something for you and your kids to do?

recycledteenager24 · 01/05/2020 13:45

you might be over thinking this op, esp. regarding the board game

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 14:15

She lives about a 10 min

I cleaned the Easter egg boxes like I do with my shopping and then we ate those. There wasn’t any other food.

The other stuff was all bits of stuff so harder to clean so it’s been in the hall for close to two weeks as I just left it in case it is contaminated in any way.

The board game was a gift so yes I thought it was cheeky to just leave it on the doorstep and then text to say they’d left some things!

you might be over thinking this op, esp. regarding the board game

I don’t know what you mean. I’m probably overthinking all of it but why esp the board game?

We don’t have any kids and don’t play board games. She had no reason to think we wanted it. She just didn’t want it and wanted to get rid. I know they’re having a bit clear out as she’s got a skip.

I texted her today and said I have just gone through the things she brought and not sure why she brought them as the game was a gift and the other stuff is not something I want or need so please text me next time rather than dropping things off as it can probably just go in the bin as especially now they shouldn’t be dropping things off household to household.

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livefornaps · 01/05/2020 14:18

Knickers in a twist much

aerosocks · 01/05/2020 14:18

Just chuck it in the bin and forget about it.

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 14:21

OK thanks for the responses. I’m going to throw it now but seems a bit irresponsible and a bit cheeky as she’s just brought stuff here instead of putting it in the bin herself. I haven’t slept so probably more annoyed than I would usually be about this!

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 14:22

Knickers in a twist much

Unhelpful response much Hmm

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Hercwasonaroll · 01/05/2020 14:23

Are you always this OTT?

Modestandatinybitsexy · 01/05/2020 14:23

She feels better about it because she's passed it on and not thrown it away. If you want to throw it away just do it.

I know it's a pandemic, and she's vulnerable, and it's annoying to get stuff you don't want. But in the scheme of things it's not really a big deal for you to chuck it in the bin instead of her.

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SquirtleSquad · 01/05/2020 14:25

I couldn't get that worked up about it.

recycledteenager24 · 01/05/2020 14:25

well, that was hard work folks.

nymrgn · 01/05/2020 14:25

Would have been easier for her to throw it out then bring it to you so maybe she just thought you might like it? Don't over think it, donate or bin it.

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 14:26

Like I said I haven’t slept so I’m more easily annoyed but I also suffer anxiety and coronavirus is something that has fuelled that a bit.

I’m clearly overreacting or being oversensitive but was just asking for opinions.

Thanks again for the replies.

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Franticbutterfly · 01/05/2020 14:27

First world problems I'd say.

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 14:30

Glad my DD isn't like you. Your poor DM

That’s a bit harsh. I’ve said I’m tired, suffer from anxiety and worried about my mother as well. What’s your excuse for being so blood rude?

Would have been easier for her to throw it out then bring it to you so maybe she just thought you might like it? Don't over think it, donate or bin it.

It was important got me to tell her so she knows not to bring more stuff round. She’s having a clear out so I’ve suggested she just texts me if she finds anything else so it can just go straight in the bin and save us all some time.

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SquirtleSquad · 01/05/2020 14:31

Fair enough OP, try and relax where you can Thanks

lemontreebird · 01/05/2020 14:32

YANBU. Irritating when other people use you like a bin.

zscaler · 01/05/2020 14:38

YANBU, I would find that irritating. She clearly didn’t want to feel guilty about binning the game so she offloaded the problem on to you. There is a mental load associated with dealing with clutter!

RightOnTheEdge · 01/05/2020 14:38

I think you are NBU!
She came and dumped a load of junk on your doorstep without asking if you want it and a game you had given her as a gift. It is annoying and rude.

The OP said she was "a bit annoyed"
How is that OTT or getting her knickers in a twist? Hmm

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BunnytheHoneyBee · 01/05/2020 14:41

Thanks @SquirtleSquad and for all the responses that seem to understand being a little annoyed doesn’t mean I think this is the end of the world!

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BlueJava · 01/05/2020 14:47

I'd just dump what I didn't want in the bin, wipe down the rest and keep it. I appreciate she is out and about when she possibly would be safer inside but people have to make their own decision. I saw an elderly couple out walking the other day by the river, I imagine they were sick of being inside!