Lockdown rules and pushy in laws

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I have a 8 month old and me and partner have currently been isolating for 6 weeks now, I'm on maternity leave and he's been laid off from his job. We haven't left the house except for food shopping once and week and like everyone else it's driving us up the wall staying home but I know it's the safest place right now.
My mums a Covid nurse and we has saw us twice within the lockdown only to stand at garden gate and wave at baby, it's upsetting , i miss her like mad.
On the other hand my partners parents are so laid back and they come by every other day and come closer each time. They've also recently moved house and want us to visit on the weekend to 'get us out' and also telling us it can't be that bad as it's only a small group of people.
I'm pissed off that my family tries so hard yet his just don't really give a toss. I've told partner I'm not happy leaving home yet he says it's okay. Surely I can't risk it even for an hour or two. The fact that there seems to be no concern even with my 8 month old baby! Is it just me or... 🙄😠

I'd tell him to go by himself, and that u wont risk urself and the baby.
my sister's friend just passed away from covid (was tested) ppl arectaking the p*

Sorry to hear that @Hannah021

I honestly don't think people see how bad it really is. Even the fact that in laws have moved house during the lockdown scares me. Yes I think it's best I continue to stay home

One of the few silver linings of covid is the opportunity to have a break from pushy relatives and to re-set the terms of a relationship to make it more sustainable long term.

Tell them no.

I have an 8 month baby op, I miss my mum like crazy but I cannot and will not risk it. We were due to move house, but we also postponed this even though it was hard. We have had to put our baby first as parents do and as you want too.

I am at home as is dh, we have not gone ‘out out’ for 6 weeks. Not even supermarkets as dh collects shopping. Occasionally we go for a walk but this is limited. I have seen my mum from a distance too but only because we dropped shopping to her and she came by her door while we were in the car (again click and collect shopping, so minimised contact). Dh knows his mum is not as strict on rules like my family (mil has been staying at her others children’s houses) and because of this dh has not seen his mum as she knows she will push for him to come in or have some sort of contact etc. He expressed his views clearly so when he did shopping for her and left it outside and only told her to open the door once he had left so she cannot she tempted to hug etc. Not everyone is following the rules the same way I understand that. But you have to do what you feel is right by you and your child. Absolutely agree that you should tell your dh to go but you will not be joining. I wouldn’t personally and we are in the same boat. Hope your Lo is well.. 8 month sleep regression kick in? 😭

If your DH goes to visit their house, he could bring any virus back to you and baby. I highly doubt they'll have masks on and disinfected every single surface. Dooes your DH fancy social distancing for 2 weeks from you & Dbaby within the house?

I'd point out to him that he won't get DC baby cuddles, be able to participate in family life, nor be able to sleep in his own bed with you at all, if he goes to see PIL.

Until gov changes lockdown rules, that's the rules. Yes it applies to
Him and his parents as well as all other people. They're not special.

As for PILs - why are you /DH answering door to them? They can't pop by to see you if you go inside and stay inside. It doesn't say exercise includes popping round and chatting to family at their door 'but stay 2m away' , lockdown is stay in except for essentials. They'd really annoy me.

Tell your dh not to let his parents in anymore
Does he ever stand up to them or does he not think he needs to take lockdown seriously either?

I Wouldn’t go either OP. Apart from anything else their ‘it’s only a couple of people’ attitude suggests they’ve also ‘only’ had a quick cup of tea with their neighbours, a long discussion with the postman, etc etc

We have exactly the same problem. Some people don't feel the rules apply. My in laws are a nightmare.

Tell him he needs to self isolate on his return.

Why is your partner listening to his parents rather than a Covid nurse? That is the question he needs to answer with an rational explanation. Tell him if he comes up with one, which doesn’t put your baby at risk, you’ll consider it.

I’d tell him he’s welcome to go to his parents’ house. But he has to stay there. It’s a one-way journey.

They’ve just moved, aren’t observing the rules and he would be risking bringing something as-yet-unsurfaced back into your home, where a small baby resides.

Are you really not leaving the house at all apart from food shopping? That isn't healthy. You can at least go out for exercise once a day perfectly safely by taking reasonable precautions.

I think you could go out a little, for exercise, but not by breaking the lockdown rules. So unless you can walk past their house I wouldn't be visiting even their front drive but certainly don't go in. If he goes without you he will go in I bet.