Mr Grumpy Bollocks

[PrettyTricky]

Lighthearted really as it's not always like this, but irked in any case.
DH is working from home, he's in the study from 7am - 6pm Mon-Friday. I make his lunch, bring him cups of coffee/tea etc. I'm am generally ignored during the day and fair enough as he's busy as he's working. He worked until midnight Monday and Tuesday (staff have been furloughed so remaining have to pick up the slack) and he's a workaholic at the best of times. He's stressed at the moment with work for obvious reasons.

So, I've barely seen him all week and it's pretty isolating as my teen is doing school work and then facetiming or speaking to her friends online.

I'm really quite lonely.

So DH came down for dinner at 6pm and was in a miserable mood because he 'needed to wind down' and not converse for a while. Again fair enough I suppose.

But then he announced that he arranged to zoom with his friends this evening after dinner, and as soon as he was on Zoom with them his personality changed completely and he became Mr Conversation, Mr Bright and Breezy. Whereas I get Mr Grumpy Bollocks.

I am upstairs and can hear him laughing and joking away. Aibu to be peeved off that his friends get this great version, and yet I get moaning and misery?

To quote Leslie Sharp in Rita, Sue & Bob too:

“Make your own fucking tea.”

It must be very hard to live with Mr Grumpy. Is he like this everyday?

Contradicts the posts of women praising their partners for making them breakfast in bed and cups of tea throughout the day.

Have a polite word with him.

Oh bullshit do we take our stress out on the ones we love the most. That’s up there with we hurt the ones we love the most. It’s just a way for people being treated with carelessness, disrespect or outright shit behaviour by the people who claim to love them to avoid facing up to that.

@MaeDanvers i agree, ppl who are madly in love with each other, go out of their way to keep each other happy... This shit behaviour comes with time, when love cools off and becomes a routine

Are you going to call him out on his behaviour OP? He's being thoughtless and disrespectful!

This pisses me off.

Both me and DH are WFH long hours, busier than usual and with 2 kids homeschooling.

I earn more and in many ways my job is more secure, yet still we have to act like he is chairman of the board when he's on an average UK salary, locked away, me doing all the other stuff and working too, in a more senior role.

We've fallen out over it countless times. The kids have heard, so I don't bite.

It sucks because my work is demanding too right now but dismissed.

Why do you make him cups of tea and lunch? Wouldn’t he do this for himself if he were in the office? Shouldn’t be any different at home.