to consider TTC whilst in a one bed flat

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This might not even happen but lots of time for thinking in lockdown and interested in your thoughts.

We want to start TTC in September, after our big holiday (which might not go ahead now anyway, ugh) and I will also be eligible for much better Mat pay from my employer by then.

Our flat is on the market, and we hoped to have moved into a proper house by then however that has all obviously ground to a halt now. If we don't sell before September we will need to remortgage (end of fixed term) and will need to stay here for probably at least18 months to sort an issue with the lease which I wont bore you with now. (hence trying to sell before sept and not have to deal with that!)

I really don't want to put off TTC so just looking for others experiences of having a baby in a one bedroom flat? We are lucky, it's ground floor with a parking space and private garden but just worried about being hemmed in/cooped up otherwise. Its essentially an old garage with a bedroom tacked on at the back! so small open plan kitchen/living, and no bath tub just a shower room.

Sorry for rambling, any advice? :)

p.s. I am well aware we might not even be successful for a year, but i'm a planner!

Interesting one. I'd say if age is on your side I'd probably wait. Although could you afford to drop the price to get a quick sale and get moving now?

P.S. the amount of stuff a baby has is mind boggling. It took over our four bed house so it would be pretty horrific in a tiny flat!! Of course, there'll be people on here who say you don't need lots of 'stuff' but the stuff is FUN!

I’d wait if age is on your side, this pandemic has taught me I want space with a child- plenty of space!!!

Go for it! Honestly, tiny babies don’t take up that much space, and s/he will likely be in your room for at least 6 months. We had our first in a small flat and it was fine. There are great products out there to help make the best use of space - fold flat baby baths, pram bassinets that double as Moses baskets etc.

Maybe try to avoid having twins though

Don't do it! I'm in a 2 bed with a toddler and baby twins. We put our house on the market when I was 5 months pregnant, thinking we'd be moving not long after the birth. The babies are now 6 months old and the lack of space is becoming a real challenge, but with the current situation, I can't see us being able to move for at least a year.

A newborn doesn't take up much space, or need too much stuff. A 1 year old does, so it depends if you can see yourself moving by then, and with a little one.

We moved into our house with a baby and are so glad we went for it.

I would go for it, you don’t know how quickly it will happen and you don’t want to regret it later.

Would be a good reason to be really diligent with the amount of stuff you buy for the baby too. So much you don’t need, save the money instead for the move. (Although I do take the PP point, if you love having stuff then obviously you may have to factor that into your decision.)

Unless you know you are super fertile I would crack on regardless of your age. I have friends who suffered secondary infertility in their early 30s.

Just be prepared that due to the current economic situation you may be stuck in a one-bed flat with a child about to start school.

I would go for it. I had kids in a one bed flat and it wasn’t that bad!

Go for it

Cheers all - I am 28 so I suppose age still on my side but you never know how long it could take!

I waited 6 months for similar reasons to you, and I'm your age. We started trying a year ago and I'm still not pregnant! I say don't wait.