AIBU to not want to pick someone up who doesn't live with me?

[SploshMeBackwards]

Just that really.
I've been asked if I can pick someone up from the hospital but we don't live in the same house hold. Normally I would say yes no problem but this time I've said no and feel awful for it.

No way! They can get a taxi surely? Or if not then they need patient transport.

Could u pay for a taxi for them?

Any chance of any more info?

Who is it? What have they been in for? How isolated have you been?

I have offered to pay for a taxi but just waiting on hearing back.

No more info as there isn't much more that's needed to know.

No not being unreasonable at all

I've been out once in all of 6 weeks. It's a close relative.

Depends if you like them or not.

I would much rather pick someone up in my clean car and have them see a friendly face after what has probably been a stressful and worrying experience (if they’ve managed to get a hospital appointment this week they must really need it!) than have them take their chances in a taxi cab that may or may not have been thorough cleaned between customers.

I had a hospital appointment a couple of weeks ago and my BF took me and waited with me in case it was bad news (I was told it was fine to bring someone with me, they expected it). If he’d selfishly expected me to get a cab to save himself being exposed to me, while then toddling along to the CoOp to pick up his food shopping, I’d think a lot less of him tbh.

It's fair enough to say no to protect yourself and family. However to everyone saying pay for a taxi, that means putting the taxi driver at that risk, plus a greater risk to your friend/relative as the taxi driver will have been exposed to lots of people if they are still working.

Unless you are particularly vulnerable yourself (or live with someone who is) then personally I would, if it’s a close friend/family member that I would normally do this for, I don’t see why I’m any different than expecting a taxi driver to take the same risk, and am not too worried about the virus overall personally. But you might be more vulnerable or more anxious and I think it’s ok to decline in the current climate if you just don’t feel comfortable. I think.

I've been out once in all of 6 weeks. It's a close relative ah so you’re either high risk or have health anxiety?

Personally I would, a taxi has hundreds of people using it, your car has few, meaning lesser of a risk to the individual, people can still go to medical appointments/travel together for work etc...

Tell them to sit in the back and cover their face. I'd rather give a lift then risk them in a taxi

I have been getting a taxi regularly the last few weeks. 6 taxis a week to and from medical appointments. Unavoidable and permitted travel. All drivers have masks on, so do I. You sit on the rear pasanger side so the most distance possible and some of them have wipes for you to use if you want them so I have just started to carry a pack too. Use them to hold the handle or wipe the seat with.
It is OK for you not to do this for them.

No.

Taxi

Close relative- yes I would. Wash your hands, change your clothes wear gloves ect.

I think the point is why are you not doing it? If you are worried about your own/families health then it's ok to say no. If it is about following the rules, then I would say yes, as the overall risk is lower if you do it.

I’d much rather collect someone I love in a car that I know has only had me in it for the last few weeks than have them get in a taxi that has multiple people a day in it, especially knowing that taxis are being used for hospital appointments more frequently than normal right now. I’d also much rather they we’re sitting next to someone who hasn’t been out for six weeks than someone who has had taxi driver levels of interaction.

"Could u pay for a taxi for them?"
Why on earth should she?

How did the relative get TO the hospital?

I'm conflicted because members of there household haven't been keeping to the rules - Out willy nilly whenever they fancy despite myself and others telling them they really shouldn't be! Members of their household should also be shielding but aren't.

Why should YOU pay for a Taxi that is for someone not of your household??

SploshMeBackwards you mention members (plural) of their household who should be shielding but aren't.

Why are you being asked to pick up someone from another household when they live with other non shielding (whether they should or not) adults?

Mixing households is only an option if nobody from their own household can drive.

Is it you are worried about catching it? Are you vunerable in anyway?

I probably would. If it was a serious medical appointment and they lived alone I definitely would, but they are going home to someone who they can talk to so I think its really up to you. If you dont feel comfortable doing it thats okay