Good morning!
I've not been on here for a while (couple of years actually) as been going through living hell with my abusive (now ex) husband who abused me causing the DC andI to end up in refuge thanks to Women's Aid and the fantastic support and advice I got on MN (I'm the one with the groping, speeding narcissist). I won't go into details but he's managed to shaft me financially (100k in legal fees) and get 50/50 eventually despite my son's health needs and so on.
Cutting to the chase...my DS (7) has a genetic condition and we had to go to London on Tuesday for a scan. DD (3) stayed with Dad and I took DS in. They routinely do swabs now for MRSA and Covid-19. Ex was trying to bully me into letting DD stay overnight and the stress was awful (it was my contact day/night and there is a CAO in place). I delivered the DC to him yesterday at 10am and one hour later had a call from virology to say that DS has Covid-19. He was asymptomatic, no problems and had the test not been done we would be none the wiser. Ex has said all day and all night that he will not return the DC. The virologist confirmed that they and paediatrics are happy for the normal arrangements to continue as both households have been exposed, and that as long as we follow stringent hygiene measures and only go from door to door there i no risk to anyone else. I also called Public Health England who emailed me with confirmation of the same so i have it in writing. I had loads of pompous, verbose and sometimes insidiously abusive and gaslighting messages all evening and I simply kept reiterating that I would expect the children at 10am today.
He has this morning texted to say that he has full parental rights and he has taken the unilateral decision to keep the DC with him as he and they have (magically and conveniently) become unwell. I have called police but they say they have no powers to enforce the court order or to make him return the DC, and that it is a matter for the court (who are only taking calls from 10am). I have said to ex that if HE is unwell I will collect the DC from his doorstep at 10am. No responses yet.
He is ignoring all the professional advice and breaching the court order. He has coercively controlled and abused me for years and even though we are now divorced he continues to attempt the control and gaslighting, telling me that I am petty, controlling, cruel and abusive all the very things he is himself. I know what he has done. He wrecked my life and I'm slowly rebuilding although everything is on ice due to lockdown. I began to see what he was doing to me thanks to the amazing people I made contact with on here and I hope that someone can help me again.
Thanks, in hope x