Coronavirus and miscarriage

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Anyone going through loss at the moment feeling a bit like they’ve just been pushed aside and left bewildered/unprepared.

Posted last week in group re my ongoing heartache, LMP 9 weeks ago coming up to 10, convinced according to cycle length and tracking 6 weeks ago. Had multiple scans all showed an empty scan with very little progression, slowly rising HCG.

Was brought in a few day’s ago and admitted for a couple nights with shoulder and back pain, query ectopic. My haemoglobian fell and with my hcg following trend of ectopic they was thinking it was likely I would be having surgery, even told me it wouldn’t be keyhole and would be laptromy due to current guidelines and was nil by mouth for over 12 hours. Took my bloods again for my blood group incase i needed a transfusion. It felt very serious.

I had yet another scan which showed the sac still in right place. Multiple consultants reviewed me and all said they was at a loss with my pain, and comparing the bloods VS scan. They said it was unlikely with the scan finding was ectopic but not impossible given my bloods. They kept me in again over night for obs.

I was in agony the whole night. I started to get very slight/light brown discharge on my last night (sorry for TMI) - no doctor/nurse reviewed this and in the morning I was sent home and told to come back if I had any heavy bleeding.

With a final scan pushed back from 1st May to 4th. I asked if my body doesn’t let go by then when will I be booked for procedure and was told they would discuss this on 4th- I’ve been in and out of hospital for the last few weeks. As awful as it sounds I’m just desperate for it to be over now.

This is really taking a significant toll on me now mentally and physically. I completely understand the strain on the hospital with NHS my grandad is currently in ICU with covid so I’m 110 perfect empathetic and grateful but I can’t help but feel very worried and I don’t know I guess angry that our physical and mental health is just being pushed to aside.

I was on oramorph, codine and IV meds for two nights/3 days and been sent home with nothing and I’m having contraction like pains now and don’t even know if it’s normal or the discharge I’m having is normal? (Again sorry for tmi).

I know a loss at anytime is very hard but this is honestly torture. I’m scared.

Sorry OP 💐

Fairly similar here except my MMC was at the beginning of April, had to go to hospital alone (no partners allowed) and after waiting 9 hours an ultrasound confirmed no heartbeat, at 9 weeks. I had been bleeding with bad pains for a week, they told me they wouldn't do surgery unless it was an emergency due to covid, so I was sent home with a bit of codeine to wait until it passed 😔 this was on the 4th April and I've cried every day since. It's the loneliest I've ever felt. And horrible knowing you can't just ask your GP about the discharge etc. (I have had all sorts coming out, including yellowy snot type!)

I completely understand wanting it to be over, even though it means saying goodbye for good. It's very human, we need closure to grieve. I was fortunate that it happened quickly after I was sent home from hospital, so sorry you're having to wait.

You have my deepest sympathy.

I’m so sorry OP - that’s absolutely awful. I don’t have any advice, just a huge amount of sympathy

Go to A&E, if only to get you some stronger painkillers. A fresh pair of eyes on the situation might also help.

Have you looked at the Tommy's website? There is lots of help on there including people to 'talk' to. IME, the care given to people experiencing miscarriage has always been patchy. I mc at 13 weeks over Christmas a few years back and I was left alone to deal with it. I'd had a private scan so we could announce our pg on Christmas day. There was no heartbeat. The private clinic arranged an appointment with the hospital who said they needed two scans a week apart before they'd help me. I was left alone to manage and it was awful. Tommy's have been an amazing support to me.

Thanks ladies just had a really dark angry night last night and just so confused that my spottings only been minimal going through the motions. Dreading my pregnancy being over with completely but also can’t take the pain and draining process anymore just want my body to work properly seems like it’s still holding on so scared about the procedure

Sorry OP. I had similar in February but of course lockdown wasn't in force then so not the same.

I'm really sorry for what you're going through. It's awful and I can imagine even worse right now

Second going to A&E if pain gets worse. Don't hang around, these things can have serious complications if something has been missed. Don't feel like you can't access help if you feel you need it xx

Posted too soon...I'm sorry to hear you have been in so much pain, my hospital has an emergency gynaecology line and it might be worth checking on website of yours does too and give them a ring