To be annoyed when he just disappears?

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I'm seeing a guy and at the moment having a bit of a worrying time personally due to ill family member so in need of distraction.
Anyway last night we were texting and having a conversation.
He must have fallen asleep but this morning he's read my texts and didn't bother replying.
His on Facebook tagging his friends In football things and uploading things to his snapchat.
This isn't the first time either.
It's a bit disrespectful isn't it?
3 messages ignored (all sent last night )
Or am I being over the top and has this lockdown made me a bit of a drama queen.
Be honest

Il just add I know this isn't important at all in the grand scale of things and I won't sit and mope all day over it.

It's hard to tell without the context. If you were having a conversation and he fell asleep he might well not reply the next day because the conversation is over and it would feel strange to pick it up the next morning.

If he regularly just bluntly stops responding in the middle of a conversation, I think that would bother me though.

I get a bit bored of peoplesulking if a text isnt promptly answered, its a bit needy

I agree we need more context.
I suppose a text conversation has to stop somewhere and if you’re keen you won’t want to be the one to stop it. So maybe he has to.
Perhaps also 3 texts in a row is a bit much when he hasn’t replied to the first of the three? You may be coming across as a bit intense.

The three texts were just short texts about the same thing.
Rather than send a big paragraph one (if that makes sense)
He was telling me he was watching this film and I was telling him what I was watching.
Then I sent him a picture of a band off ages ago saying how much I used to love them.
Then nothing ..no reply this morning

Should I text him and say
Take it your too busy to reply? Or
Sorry did I bore you?

Just leave it if he’s interested he will contact you - you’re coming across as a bit needy and maybe need to do something to distract yourself so you’re not phone watching

Definitely don't text again. If a man text me either of those things early on, it would be a massive red flag to me and I wouldn't want to carry on talking to them etc.

I would just leave it and let him message you first :).

I would leave it personally. "Did I bore you" would get my back up.

Don't send the passive aggressive text. It will make you sound a bit mental.

Were the actual questions in the text?

No there was no questions but we were having a conversation.
I'm assuming he couldn't be bothered to reply today,
Makes me feel stupid him leaving 3 texts on read.

Leave it now and find something else to do.

Yeah, you seem a little over dramatic - it's been what, 12 hours tops? Maybe you could focus on your own stuff and leave him to respond when he's free?

Just leave it and get on with your day. Texting him again will look needy. Passive aggressive texts are a red flag and a sign of desperation. Not attractive.

I think when he said he was watching a film, that was your cue to leave him alone!

Texts aren't really for conversations, I get very irritated if a person wants to text back and forth in a conversational style.

Do you want to text continuously?

I think you're overthinking it. If he's fell asleep last night and you were talking about movies or whatever then it would prob be weird to pick it up the next day. Hopefully he'll start a new convo with you today. I don't think it's weird that he's left these messages on read tho but I can see why you'd wanna overanalyse it

I honestly think I'm over analysing it.
I'm gonna do some baking and tidying up and watch a film.
We spoke a lot yesterday and the day before etc
It's not the first time he's did this.

Overthinking it. It's not like your waiting for a reply to a question

You need to step away from the phone, you're coming across as very needy. Technology has not helped the dating world in this way at all. People want instant response (I've been guilty of that in the past) but not everyone feels the same about answering straight away and rushing with an answer. It wouldn't have hurt him to say goodnight but otherwise, step away for now.

Oh god NO don't be the needy girlfriend. I jave a friend who have basically ruined a few relationships with that kind of texting behaviour.

Just leave it and he'll text later or text him later yourself with something nice or funny, men are simple, weird and annoying. They rarely love texting and you can't read much into it.

I wouldn't even bother thinking about anyone who has to do all this texting about non descript things.

He has actually just text me.
Something totally unrelated to what we spoke about.
I think I think too much about things.

You knew he was trying to watch a film. So you kept bothering him with important pictures of bands you used to like. If I received any message the next day wanting to know why I didn't reply to that. I would be really reviewing the relationship. It's needy and a bit controlling.

My dh works away. Sometimes if he's busy we wont message me at all. I'm not sat around tieing myself up in knots, waiting for him to message me. I'm busy living my life. We always have plenty to tell each other when he gets home.

There are various other threads on here about people freaking out when message chats go quiet. Generally people don’t just completely forget you exist, if they don’t reply either they don’t want to or they are doing something else. In either case, sending more messages just makes you look desperate/controlling.
I’m pleased for you that he has replied now, but just for future reference, both of your suggested texts (the too busy one, and the did I bore you one) are horribly passive aggressive and if someone sent me either of those, they would not be getting another reply from me, ever.