(Live overseas so not in lockdown)
Long term friend but not childhood friend is expecting. Pre COVID-19 we talked about me helping organise her baby shower or for me to host it at mine. I have a suitable space that lends well to parties. She was thankful of the offer but her only concern was putting me out / upsetting me. (TTC / failed IVF) So we decided to talk about it closer to the time. But she was 100% going to have a shower and wanted me to help ..... It is now closer to the time. AIBU to throw her an online shower? She would have had one in some format if the pandemic hadn't happened. I want to give her something to look forward to /remember and maybe for her to get some gifts along the way if people are happy to give (100% no obligations)
I was thinking on getting it nearly organised and tell her the week before (so she isn't stressed about it) or keeping it a surprise.
I thought that if anyone wanted to send gifts they could get them delivered to her DH or to mine. Was going to send some decorations to her DH to set up a room in the house. Have balloons / flowers delivered on the day. With her favourite takeaway and some cupcakes. I've seen some easy online games and I'd set up a guest book online that she can print and keep.
I was going to ask her DH for help and I know a couple of her other close friends who can help with guest list ect.
AIBU to do this or is it best left to her BF or DM.