In need of some opinions, so please be honest.
A little bit of background - before my children were born me and my MIL had a fairly good relationship. We would go to exercise classes together, have dinner and drinks and I would consider her a friend.
When my first was born she began to ignore me. An example... I would make sure I visited her at least once a week, if not more, and when I arrived she would have a cold cup of tea, a cold cup of coffee, a fizzy drink going flat and a glass of water sitting on the side. She would say 'I dont know what you want so made 1 of everything, take whichever' because she couldnt bare to be away from my child for 60 seconds to offer me a drink. I would then try and have a conversation and she wouldnt answer a single thing I said. She wouldnt even realise I was speaking as she was so busy shoving her face in my daughters. I left on numerous occasions in tears as she made me feel so unwanted.
Along the way she has done many things which have upset me. A couple of example are...
Choosing not to give my daughter her antibiotics, change her nappy or put her down for a nap when I left her in her care for the first time as these were jobs she didnt want to do incase it upset my daughter. Therefore neglecting her basic needs.
My best friend was getting married and my MIL is friends with her MIL so had an invite to the wedding. She got drunk and bitched about me to everyone including the bride (MY friend) and her mother.
We wanted to keep my second childs name a secret but my husband let slip what it was. She then told the entire family his name within 3 hours despite us asking her not to say anything.
She ignored my second child at his christening, didnt say 1 single word to him, not even 'hello' because she was to busy running around my church after my first child playing. She wouldnt allow any other family members talk to her. Every time someone tried she would chase her up the aisles.
My husband spoke to her and told her she has upset me over the months and its damaging my relationship with her. She basically said she has enough to worry about so who cares. 7 weeks later she sent me a 'how are you' message, which I ignored as I felt I was owed an apology for all the things she has done to me and until I got it I am no longer willing to make small talk.
Her response to this was to delete me off facebook.
AIBU to have ignored her? I dont know where to go from here honestly. I'm so angry at the moment. What would you do?