to feel sad after watching Beyond Normal

[Sarah510]

that I will never probably have a 'great love' in my life. I feel like I've missed out on a whole part of life. Never had a boyfriend in my teens or at College. Married my first 'real' boyfriend, and it was a disaster, have 2 beautiful children, but never felt the passion or kind of love portrayed in the tv prog. Even if I went back in time though I don't know if I would meet someone I could click with. Do a lot of people go through their lives without a 'love'

I haven’t seen the show but didn’t want to leave your thread unanswered.

I think personally that we are unrealistic in our aspirations of love these days. Back in the day a nice girl would meet a nice lad, they’d get on well and set about working hard building a life together, nowadays everyone wants fireworks and butterflies that last forever without putting in any effort, and nobody is willing to settle because they’re scared that the next swipe might be better.

I guess what I’m trying to say is I think that movie kind of love (obsession?) is rare, and if you meet someone who makes you laugh and treats you kindly, that’s enough.

The passion and "kind of love" portrayed in romantic fiction are just that - fiction.

I watched Normal
people and thought the same but as pp said its rarely real to the extent portrayed.

@MrFaceyRomford I disagree, real passion is a real thing. Amazing while it lasts.

I felt sad after watching it. Only because I have been in that relationship.
It wasn't it just fiction - relationships can be like that.
And we are still together but apart because of covid.
The intensity it still there 26 years later...there have been a few ups and downs but it's almost physically painful when we aren't together.
However, prior to meeting I too felt I would never meet a real 'love'. Everyone else seemed two dimensional.
There is always time for it yet to happen - good luck!

I think passion is a real thing but shouldn't be confused with love. In fact, a lot of the time they might be mutually exclusive because the feeling of passion comes from things that aren't compatible with having an enduring relationship, such as a feeling that you feel more strongly about the other person than they do about you, or the sense that it is temporary because you can't be together in the long term, or the fact that your relationship is very volatile, or simply the sense that it takes so much out of you emotionally that it isn't sustainable indefinitely. I think for me that's the defining characteristic of passion - its temporary nature.

I think the best any of us can hope for is a relationship that starts out with (a healthy kind of) passion and by the time the passion fades it has been replaced with a genuine and deep love based on friendship, mutual respect, and a decent amount of physical attraction.

Next best thing is that you find that kind of love without necessarily experiencing the passion at the beginning, and that's OK. I don't think everyone is capable of passion.

I don't think passion on its own (i.e. without the love) is worth pursuing for its own sake.

Chemistry is a very real and powerful thing, and it lasts. Not so sure about “passion”. Definitely worth holding out for chemistry, though. It makes the tough bits much easier.

I found it very moving. I had a 'true love' (or so it felt) as a late-teenager. We were together for two years, hugely passionate, threw out bin liner of love letters from him a few years back.
He was in my area last year and made contact. We met up - he's happily-married, it wasn't in any way dodgy.
But my goodness, I felt such wistfulness, and a profound connection with him even though we're now in our 50s with very colourful lives inbetween.
I think there' s a bit romantic pull towards those 'first' loves, and it's probably age and time-related.
I hope you find someone OP; not sure it will ever have the romantic passion and pull of a teen love though. People say it's more companionable as we get older. Maybe others have had major passions later in life?
I'm in your shoes, and hope to meet someone one day. Good luck.

So is it Beyond normal or normal people?

sorry yes it's normal people.

I don't think anyone would want to be with me now - I'm fat and saggy and I cant imagine ever having sex again. I know, I'm trying to do something about it, but habits are so ingrained - food is my medicine, my drug of choice!

I had some big crushes when I was a teen/early 20s. Always unreciprocated though. It's all I've ever wanted really - a deep connection with someone, with all the chemistry passion etc.