Do you think this is the end of the people popping round culture?

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That's one of my favourite things about this. Nobody pops round. Surely everyone will be much more thoughtful about imposing their germs on people after this?

I like it when my family and friends pop in.

I like them.

Why do people hate this? I would love it if people would do this to me!

I remember in the 70’s/80’s people popping in at my parents. I don’t think anyone has popped in unannounced to our house ever. We do have lots of visitors but its prearranged.
Also our front door is a Yale lock, you can’t leave it unlocked, as seems to be a thing on mn.

There seems to be a set of people here who need at least 24hrs notice that someone might be calling, or else they will be hiding behind the sofa for most of the day.

There seems to be a set of people here who need at least 24hrs notice that someone might be calling, or else they will be hiding behind the sofa for most of the day.

That’s me! Well, a text asking if it’s OK to pop round in 15/20/30mins or whatever is what I need. Even a 5 minute warning. So I can mentally prepare myself for socialising.

I don't need my family and friends to make an appointment to come and see me. I find it odd that people do.

I’ve never known anyone to pop round, when I was growing up or now. Occasionally someone may have knocked with something for someone in the house but they were always on their way to doing something else. Never turning up to come in. Is this regional thing? Maybe it’s because I’m from a very small family?

I don't like it because it's people making plans for your time without including you in the plan.

There seems to be a set of people here who need at least 24hrs notice that someone might be calling, or else they will be hiding behind the sofa for most of the day.

Yes, that's me too. Family know me well enough (and care enough) to give me notice. Any friend who's done it to me has been dropped - ghosted as we say now - at the earliest opportunity, and actually I tend to avoid making friends on the whole in case they do it!

Only on Mumsnet! Why are people so insular?!

No I don’t like cold callers etc but my sister, SIL, Mum, nice neighbour over the road, best friend.... why WOULDN’T you want to see these people ?! If you’re busy, you just say!

I really hope so. Absolutely do not miss the door knocking randomly and hope it doesn’t start again!

@DaysEChain genuinely you’ve ghosted friends because they’ve knocked on your door without prior arrangement ? You must live a very strange lonely life

Chillicheese, yes - I don't mean I never saw them ever again after that single incident, but when a convenient opportunity arose to lose touch with people who tended to do it, I gratefully took it.

I'm never lonely, in fact. I go out to work and have friendly enough relationships with colleagues there, and am very close to my (admittedly small) family. I also never actually mind being alone.

I hope so. My MIL is a neat freak. I am nowhere near that. I need at least 24hours notice to get my house suitable for visitors!

Yep, hopefully. I hate it. I don't want people randomly turning up at my house to spend time with me without checking I'm free first. Just because I'm home, doesn't mean I want company.

Fucking hope so

Hope so. I personally find it rude, especially when in laws used to do it on a Sunday eve at teatime or bath time.
Just bloody text or call to check first!

Once lots of people have had it, the waves come and less and less die and less and less affected then things will move back again. No idea how long that will take.

It's all so immediate now that some people cannot see how it will get better but it will - it always does. Other pandemics in the past killed millions (this one may as well once it hits the very poorest countries) and the world just continues.

One of our neighbours just used to open the back door and shout “it’s only me!

Oh I forgot i have a friend like this

She doesn’t usually stop though

Mostly she’d text ‘im just about to drive past your house are you in’

I don't understand this.

We're all individuals. Some people like people popping round and some don't. If you agree between yourselves it's ok to pop round - no problem.

If people pop round and you don't like it, tell them - no problem.

Why does it have to be some sweeping cultural shift? We're all individuals.

It is UP TO US whether was have popping round or not? Who else is it up to?

Why are people so insular

I see between 30 and 40 people for coffee or drinks every 6 week period (half termly) a handful of them more than once in that 6 weeks

I also started a book club and once upon a time a cake club

I like my friends....i love my family

Won't affect me because my friends know I hate it and wouldn't do it in the first place.

I don't open the door to knockers unless it's a delivery. The only person who comes round unannounced is my mum and she has a key so I know it's her.

I think it's quite rude to just turn up, not giving a person time to have a quick tidy or make themselves presentable

Why will anyone’s behaviour change once we’re out of the pandemic?

If we assume there’ll be a vaccine, and we take it, our society will slowly crawl back to normal. Why would social interaction change?

Is that a joke? Surely the only people who 'pop' around are your friends or neighbours? I love that we're on a friendly street where people bump into each other all the time and where we get invited in for a cuppa.
It's one of the things that's been hardest for us so far...

I have never lived anywhere where people have popped round to other's houses out of the blue. Thank god. I would hate it. Don't these people go to work.