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Does The Virus May You Re-Think Full Time/Long Term Security vs Part Time/Simplicity?

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RubysRoo · 28/04/2020 06:19

Fascinating discussion at my team meeting yesterday. My work has many employees who are the breadwinners and/or sole parents. Some of us work full time (there or between a couple jobs) and hope for long term security, despite it being far far harder now. Many work part time hours, earning 1/3 to 1/2 of what they could - and instead of bringing home £30k plus are on a fraction of that - but want to be home more often, have a simpler life etc.

The latter group interestingly often have life circumstances that allow for that - house in divorce, inheritance, bought when market lower, etc. Those of us that work full time don't necessarily have nicer things tbh, in fact we are often in smaller houses we paid 3x as much for because it took us longer to save for deposit. But we have the potential, once our costs are reduced (childcare etc.) to save more than our lower income colleagues, and once mortgage reduced then obviously much more to save if you are earning £32k compared to £16k. Also more chance of promotion etc.

One part time colleague said the virus made her realize it was ridiculous her dc were in school full time and she was only working 2 days/week and plans to find a way to get back to full time so they have more security. A full time colleague said the opposite, it made her realize she wants to downsize, reduce hours, move to a cheaper area and live a better quality of life. A big fear the full timers felt is that benefits/supports won't cover our expenses (b/c our houses had much higher mortgages) if we lost jobs, so some said they felt very trapped to keep going and saving for a rainy day. But many speaking about whether they made the right choice.

Are you a full timer or part timer and do you have regrets? Does the virus/life make you think you should either work more for more financial security, or work less to have a simpler life with less expenditures?

I'm definitely in the full time category (though more than one job) and between house (small terrace, but expensive area) and child with SEN I can't see I could reduce that. But if I was willing to do something drastic I probably could. Though we rely on major city hospitals so I'm not sure really. Nice to dream though. Both my closest friends work only 2 days/week making themselves low income after having children, but have mortgages under £250/month and free childcare. Very different options. One is happy, one post divorce despite being able to cover all outgoings is thinking of increasing hours so she can save more especially since this virus hit.

Would love to know what others think?

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ladyface69 · 28/04/2020 06:37

Im currently working FT in talking therapies, and am working from home at the moment. A lack of commuting has meant more free time which I'm relishing. I don't really want to go back to an office FT.
Once this is over and I'm established in my role I'd definitely like to look at reducing my hours, perhaps to only 4 days. Life is just too short.
I am envious of all the people who have children, no generation before or after this has had the opportunity to spend so much 1-1 time with them (I know there are circumstances where this is actually a bad thing i.e. DV). When I have children of my own I want to be able to have more meaningful time with them instead of working to pay childcare.
Life is too short.

TiredMummyXYZ · 28/04/2020 06:47

I’m currently full time. I’ve worked hard all my life and have mostly been full time except for a few years of part time when my children were very little. Life before all of this was very busy and stressful - with lots of juggling around work, school, childcare, after school activities etc. This has made me re-evaluate and I am now hoping to go part-time and reduce some of our activities. But then we have some health conditions that make us vulnerable so health has become a bigger priority. We are also in a fortunate position financially in that we have paid off our mortgage and have a good amount of savings. I might feel differently about going part-time if that wasn’t the case.

Smiling89 · 28/04/2020 07:03

I'm in the category of slowing down etc. My OH and I currently work full time and he is doing a course of top as well. Over the last couple of years we got the car, tv etc on finance - which given our salaries was absolutely fine at the time. Easily affordable.

However, Covid hit and then I just found out I'm pregnant and now realising how much easier things would be right now and how less stressful, if we had as little debt as possible. So we're planning on working towards paying off the finance agreements early so the only debt is the mortgage, when baby arrives. Just need work to get back to normal. Then continuing this in the future. It would actually mean we could work part time, so more time at home. I love my car - it's the first time I got one on finance so has built in sat nav, parking cameras etc but I'm only going to get a new one if this one falls apart. Then I'll save and cash purchase if needed like I used to. It was a treat but I now remember why I avoided finance before.

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