Realising it’s time to end the friendship
So I’ve (f36) been “friends” with this person (f32) for around 5 years now. Over the years we have become close enough for her to refer to us as “besties” which always made me cringe cause I’m not in school anymore but that’s by the by. Not a big deal.
Anyway, over the years there have been good times, but mostly quite shit times. I’ll describe a couple of incidents below;
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the time I needed to go and register my dads death. I was the next of kin (divorced parents) so had to do everything, from arranging the funeral to dealing with the estate. One of the things I had to do obviously was to register the death. Because of the situation surrounding my dads death and that he lived almost 100 miles away, it was all very stressful. I was able to register my dads death at my local registry office but for some reason (I honestly can’t remember why) I was telephoned and told there was an available appointment but needed to be there within the hour and it was a time that would clash with school pick up. She’s always been the kind of person that would say if you need anything just let me know. But on this occasion all I got was abuse. “Wtf op you need to think about other people. People can’t just drop what they’re doing for your whims. You expect everyone to drop everything just for you. You should give people a bit of notice if you need favours” etc.
Ever since this incident, I’ve not asked for a favour since.
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walking to school to pick up the kids and a mutual friend joins us on the way. The mutual friend is known for being a neat freak and this was the topic of discussion. My “friend” then turns round to the mutual friend and says “you really dont want to go into OPs house then it’s disgusting and so untidy. It’s like something off life of grime!”
These two incidents along with A LOT of copying:
Bought the exact same bag that I bought
Same planner
Purchased a lot of pagan/Wiccan paraphernalia and says she’s Wiccan even though she doesn’t practice the craft and only started after we met
Painted her front room the exact shade of grey as mine and then proceeded to try and decorate it so it looked the same
Bought an iPad Pro just because I had one (she actually told me this was the reason)
Same iPhone for the same reason above
But.... if I get something that she doesn’t like, it’s crap, she’s seen reviews that say whatever product it is is t very good and other people have told her that the product isn’t very good
IE the Apple Watch I just bought. She initially wanted to get herself one. But now, due to finances and covid etc she can’t afford one for obvious reasons. But now that I have one, as soon as she saw it she started saying how crap it was.
It’s been a week now of no contact. No messages, no likes/comments on Facebook, nothing.
AIBU here if I just don’t text or make contact anymore and basically just ghost her?!