He won’t stop singing

[Jammydodger6]

DP is musical. He plays guitar and writes songs. He sings but but very well.

It’s driving me insane in this lockdown listening to his constant singing. He sings on smule. I don’t have the heart to tell him his voice is just bang average and not nice to listen to all day.

He gets quite sensitive about it. I don’t think he thinks he’s an amazing singer or anything but I know it would upset him if I said I didn’t like his voice.

We live in an detached house but worried all the neighbours can hear and am getting slightly embarrassed.

AIBU?

Get some earplugs

I wouldn't normally advocate murder but in this case I'd definitely make an exception. I'd have broken his guitar over his head long before now,

Watching for replies, have the same issue with my teenage DD who is a wannabe singer. Does make you want to string yourself up after a while. You are lucky to be detached, we are semi so also worried about neighbour!

Never marry a "musician". Its one of my rules. The only thing worse than listening to someone practice for hours on end it listening to them perform....

Op maybe you need a new patio..

I think he would get upset that I didn’t like his songs etc. I’ve left the room etc and done my thing upstairs and he’s got a bit uptight about that! It just the constant noise. I feel bad. He wrote a song about me and wants me to hear it but I’m just sick of the noise!

Just the one guitar & a bit of singing OP? You are so very lucky! I suppose you could always join in with the singing, some people don't like that at all especially if you're out of tune.

Join in, I would love to see you video of you staging a kitchen drum kit!!! Pans of all sizes and spoons. Then join in, badly . With a dead straight face.

He wrote a song about me and wants me to hear it

I know I'm awful but this made me full body cringe 😬

I have two exes who are musicians. One had a couple of top 20 tracks. I still found it so cringe when anything was directed at me!

There's so much pressure to be overwhelmed with gratitude especially as they seem to be sensitive souls and not be able to take on board even the slightest bit of criticism.

Little tip for you - smile and nod along and HOWEVER bad it is, say wow that's amazing. It's easier than the fallout!

Join in, I would love to see you video of you staging a kitchen drum kit!!! Pans of all sizes and spoons. Then join in, badly . With a dead straight face. grin
This - please do this . Sell it to him as a 'great idea' of how you can spend more time with him . If he hates it and stops singing its all great and if he loves the idea and carries on at least you have a legitimate way of getting those emotions out ( pro tip - buy more wooden spoons as they can break under a lot of stress).

headphones

Electric guitar now. I just handed him the toddler and have locked myself in bathroom. Pretending to have a bath with headphones in. I’m going mad.

No jury would convict you...

But you don’t need to make it personal at all. Just say you enjoy silence / radio / tv whatever and could he keep his singing/playing to x hours a day.

You share a space, he can’t own the ‘sound’ of that space 24/7. It would drive me crazy too, and no chance would I put up with it. Patio if talking doesn’t work.