What is wrong with these people? Genuine question

[GreenTomatoes2014]

Some people are clearly displaying their worst sides in this crisis. Absolutely NO self-awareness whatsoever. Across the age ranges too. Some very recent examples:

Young couple in furious debate with staff outside Sainsbury's for not being allowed to go in together, despite arriving hand-in-hand so clearly from same household. Lots of shouting/swearing/vicious words from said couple. Poor member of staff, I felt really bad for her. In front of

Older lady in the park, maybe late 60's, early 70's, looked very well-to-do, walked past a dad with his two young children who were very close to him and sneered, "Kids, taking up all the path." Path was extremely wide, she didn't even have to leave it to pass him. Again, felt very sad to hear such aggression, felt bad for the dad.

Couple - middle aged, man pushing his partner in a wheelchair. Midday, outside supermarket. Man ignored the queue of otherwise patient people, went straight up to the front, tried to gain immediate entry. Was halted by a member of staff who told him there was one queue. Man argued the point, staff member reiterated "there's one queue." Man started mouthing off, "rude bastard," as he wheeled his equally thwarted partner away - to rejoin - yes, the back of the queue like EVERYBODY ELSE.

Older woman, possibly late 70's, outraged that a man with vulnerabilities was permitted into the co-op ahead of her. Again, quite middle-class lady - she said loudly and angrily to my friend "Well, aren't you going to say anything?"

W the actual F is wrong with people like this? Why do they feel it is their privilege to behave so badly when others are showing their strength and behaving so considerately and positively. Are they mentally ill? Are they stupid? Are they just nasty fuckers? They clearly give 0 fucks about anyone else to start with. Shocking.

AIBU to expect that a crisis like this should be seen as a chance to display our best selves? I have no respect for people like this!

They’re just as capable of waiting as the rest of us.

Sometimes true, often not.

Again, as someone who is currently dealing with a mental illness, it's quite hurtful how you've used the phrase. No I don't do any of those things.

Oh dear, got a chip on your shoulder about class, have you OP?

Some people are just rude and entitled and lockdown isn't likely to improve their manners.

By asking “are they mentally ill” you’re just as bad as the people you’re moaning about.

@GreenTomatoes2014 they’re just nasty fuckers with selfish entitlement issues by the sounds of it - Lest we forget, we’re seeing equal amounts of selflessness and community togetherness in this crisis as we are twattery.

Continue being a decent and empathetic citizen x

@GreenTomatoes2014 this isn't going to go the way you hoped!!!

So you are glad a person in a wheelchair didn't get in and also angry at a person who moaned about someone with vulnerabilities being allowed in.

I wondered about this too- what was the difference in these two situations?

Sorry OP but your post maks you sound just about as bad as those you are whingeing about.

I go for a walk everyday without fail with my daughter in her pushchair. Cyclists on the pavement has shot up ten fold

I'm a cyclist myself and never ride on the pavement. I know they do it because they're afraid of going on the road but they should give way to pedestrians instead of come barging past

I had a guy come blasting past me recently on the pavement and there was actually a cycle lane which he could have used. It's not hard to see why cyclists have a horrendous reputation

Are they just nasty fuckers?

Well are you? Asking if people who are behaving like dicks are mentally ill makes me think you are an NF yourself.

You must be out and about quite a bit to witness all of these random events.

My DH is mentally ill, he is neither stupid or nasty.

Was the woman in a wheelchair not vulnerable? You contradict yourself with your own examples.

So I guess you just demonstrated that you are stupid, nasty and with no self awareness 🤷🏻‍♀️

Some people are just entitled twats I’m afraid. Lockdown is probably making them grumpier because they can’t express their overinflated ego enough so they take what they can get.

Goady, OP.

Sorry, why are wheelchairs meant to be allowed in first, and with another person?

If you are well enough to shop, alone, you are well enough to queue.

If you are not well enough to shop alone, or queue - stay at home.

If you are well enough to shop but need an assistant with you, send them, stay at home.

I am bored, I would love to go shopping just for a change of scenery, but I can send someone else with a list rather than two of us go (and as I can't reach various shelves I'd need someone with me or need to ask for help in the shop).

NoSauce - no, not goady. I've suffered from mental heath problems in the past. It can affect your social responses. So my mental health question is a genuine one. I'm not saying people with mental health issues are nasty or stupid either.

I just want to know why some people think it's ok to behave like this.

It’s no a great mystery. Some people are dickheads and act like bigger dickheads under the stress of a pandemic where things are harder and they project their stress into others.

Genuine question:

What is wrong with these people who keep coming onto internet forums with rants about the behaviour of other people with the sole purpose of winding some of the users of said forum into a tizzy?

Perhaps you would be good enough to answer GreenTomatoes2014?

Quietheart - thanks for calling me those names. You don't know anything about me, and if you read my last post you will see that I am not suggesting people with MH issues are stupid or nasty. I just think that MH can pose social dysfunction (as i've suffered from it myself) so may be a plausable reason as to why people can be rude and offensive in circumstances where you would not normally expect them to be.
Thanks though, for your kind response!!!

There was a wheelchair user on here a few days ago. Whilst they were happy to wait their turn, the queue went past curbs and obstacles that they would struggle to negotiate so they asked to wait their turn at the entrance but weren't allowed.

BronwenFrideswide - yes sure, I'm asking a genuine question, I want to know why some people are so rude and give people nasty responses as a pose to nice ones. What causes this?

Why have you assumed I've posted this thread to wind anyone up? Perhaps you'd be good enough to answer.

You really don’t like those you perceive to be middle class and older, do you, OP ?

OP
Everyone has had mental health problems just like everyone has had physical health problems. I don’t know why stating the obvious gets you out of jail for goading and stigmatising groups, this one in particular. But you post is deliberate in pointing out traits (mainly age) that are irrelevant to the behaviour. No reason or need for this.

If you are so dead set on social politeness, just admit it was wrong to say it and apologise.

Assess you own level of tolerance and prejudice, not others.

They are rude, but they will come up against someone who won't take their crap. I know if a stranger in the park or queue thinks they can talk to me like dirt they better be prepared to get it back.

It’s interesting how many times a thread with “genuine question” in the title turns out to be something like this.