Been with my partner for several years have two dc if that’s relevant. Obviously not seeing either of our families right now but staying in contact via FaceTime.
Basically I am the oldest of 4 siblings. My mum had me quite young and re married and had my younger siblings when I was a teenager. They are closer I’m age so naturally closer. I love them of course but feel like we have no common ground, don’t really do anything together. They are now teenagers themselves.
My partner has 3 siblings. They are actually a few years younger than him (oh is a bit older than me). two are similar age to me. We went school together but didn’t really know them at the time.
Partners sister is similar age to me and we’ve always got on really well! We aren’t very close. We both have our own friends etc. She’s a party animal whereas I prefer nights in but felt like I’ve always clicked with her, confided in each other etc.
The problem is my mum. She hates it. She hates that I’m closer to her in laws than my own siblings. Asking why I regularly comment on sister in laws posts on Facebook and not my own siblings (social Media is evil). Before lockdown I would spend time with her etc, she’s a great aunty. I see my siblings to but don’t really do anything with them. They are extremely close and I’m just the older sister who has kids And is boring 🤣
There’s no reason for it. I just feel that me and sister in law have much more in common. I don’t understand what teenagers are up to these days. I just don’t feel like the conversation with my siblings flow!
I don’t love them any less. Maybe we might grow closer when they are older!
Aibu to think my mum should be grateful that my partner has a good family? Who’s always welcomed me with open arms.
I don’t think my mom understands it as she’s estranged from all her in laws and never got on with any of them!