To ask how to make my partner go to the doctors?

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Sorry not sure where to post!
My partner sprained his thumb about 6/8 weeks ago and it still hasn’t heeled and as he’s a mountain bike addict, lockdown /working from home/not being able to go out on bike (obviously wouldn’t be mountain biking atm but road bike substitute ) is not a good combination and he’s pretty depressed.
But for some strange reason he never goes to doctors for anything, not since he was a child!! How can I make him? This happened to his ankle and it literally never properly healed, don’t want the same to happen to his thumb as he lives for cycling!

He is a grown man, you can't make him. It may be a stupid decision, but it is his body and his decision to make.

Most GPS are only doing telephone appointments for non urgent stuff. Would he do a call? . My ankle never healed or went down after a sprain that went black & blue up to my calf & it's coming back to haunt me now, I've been referred re the pain.

He is a grown man. If he decides not to go to the drs and it never heals properly, then that's up to him

Maybe time to have a conversation where you spell it out that you don't see a long-term future with someone who refuses to look after themselves. It's childish, irresponsible and has the nasty sub-text of 'well you'll be here to pick up the pieces of course if I end up unable to do x, y, z.'

Thanks all, you’re right I can’t make him :( I need to learn how to be less emotionally affected by his emotions! He is very very down atm, I would say he’s had depression for about 4 years and he’s had some really bad spells (again I’ve really tried to encourage him to see a counsellor or GP about it but obviously to no avail!) and all he looked forward to was his mountain biking at the weekend! So without that it’s really hard! He says the doctors won’t be able to help him.. and his aversion to doctors stems from him being worried they will tell him he’s been stupid - eg ‘they’ll just tell me I should have gone straight away’. I’ve tried to explain they’re professionals and they wouldn’t say this :( but he lets one bad experience of anything put him off for life :(

As it’s still sore after so long the GP could refer to physio -the physisios are doing telephone/video assessments in our area so definitely worth a call.
They certainly won’t tell him he should have gone straight away as advice for sprains & strains is to treat at home initially but to speak to the dr if they don’t improve.