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FB meme - you know who your real friends are during this pandemic.

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careworkerandproud · 25/04/2020 18:23

Do these kinds of posts annoy anyone else? I just think to myself, have you contacted your friends? Surely it's a 2 way thing and you cant wait for people to contact you and if you havent heard from them then you havent tried either...

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SquirtleSquad · 26/04/2020 00:34

It's the fucking MLM hun bots getting on my tits.

One posted that they're happy to get corona to prove they'd kick its ass thanks to their immune boosting arbonne supplements and another posted saying they are thankful for the crisis because their income is so secure anyway Hmm

TheStoic · 26/04/2020 01:37

I think I can go one worse...someone on my FB created a photo album called "Lockdown 2020". An actual photo album

I can’t really see the problem with this? It’s essentially just a journal. It’ll be interesting to look back on all of this once out the other side.

Babyshambler · 26/04/2020 01:47

I think I can go one worse...someone on my FB created a photo album called "Lockdown 2020". An actual photo album

Although I can get where the OP is coming from, I wouldn't find and album called Lockdown 2020 any more weirder or irritating than one called "Christmas 2019". What's wrong with grouping photos ? And any photos taken during this time will be depicting the Lockdown - they won't be the usual set of outings and holidays at this time of year.

malmi · 26/04/2020 01:54

Bit hypocritical of Tia when you think about it from Roger's point of view, they never asked him how things were at home, just told him to go there when they got bored of him

Dontcoughnearme · 26/04/2020 02:03

I have an Instagram story album for "La Corona" as we call it in our home. I like to keep my stories to flick through later. I didn't know what else to call it. It's helpful just to group them, or I will lose them forever.

TheEyeOfProvidence · 26/04/2020 02:46

It's just a weird thing. I talk to my "real friends" on a regular basis anyway, so they don't need to "check up" on me. We all know how each other is doing anyway.

MidnightCircus · 26/04/2020 02:55

That's an annoying one anyway, does take two to contact!
As for the you should learn a new skill during lock-down bollocks, sorry, but I'm trying to not spend unnecessary money, and don't really want to! Why should anyone be made to feel like they're "wasting" lockdown because they don't? Drives me mad

TiggerOfThigh · 26/04/2020 02:59

I much prefer this

FB meme - you know who your real friends are during this pandemic.
Spartak · 26/04/2020 03:23

I hate memes and fluffy bollocks like this but I'm torn on the sentiment.

I live alone and I've had the virus. It was unpleasant but I was able to stay at home. Some friends checked in with me every day, delivered food parcels to my door without being asked, told me they were thinking of me and generally held my hand from a distance while I was scared. It wasn't all the people that I thought it would be.

Others, who I thought I was closer to, I didn't hear from at all. I know we've all got our own struggles at the moment, but it has stung a bit.

TheSkyWasDark · 26/04/2020 03:38

It's all a bit silly. What about your friend in an abusive relationship? Your friend with depression? Your friend with vulnerable relatives? Your friend with five children with special needs?

Must they all check up on you constantly too, or are they exempt?

This kind of thing is always written by white, middle class, urban women who've never experienced any actual hardship in their life and have 7000 "friends" none of whom actually care about each other.

TheStoic · 26/04/2020 04:36

Others, who I thought I was closer to, I didn't hear from at all. I know we've all got our own struggles at the moment, but it has stung a bit.

Did you contact them?

SnuggyBuggy · 26/04/2020 07:06

I agree contact goes both ways.

SilverBooks · 26/04/2020 07:43

Haha. Someone on my FB has created an album entitled 'Lockdown 2020', on which they have shared daily their child's daily homeschooling activities. It's all very intense - helicopter parenting at its finest.

Another has posted several attention seeking posts about people not contacting them, several asking people to cheer them up and quite a few about their daily exercise routine.

Don't get me wrong, I don't begrudge the above, but give it a rest love! You have nothing to prove to anyone, we dont really give that much of a shit, we're all just trying to paddle our own boats out of shit creek.

LaneBoy · 26/04/2020 07:47

Totally agree. I love this post about it

FB meme - you know who your real friends are during this pandemic.
nevermoor · 26/04/2020 08:02

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LaneBoy · 26/04/2020 08:08

There have been a few people I know being very dramatic about how “they know who their friends are”. One even posted about how they’ve deleted loads of FB friends because they didn’t see how she is at all. All her other lockdown posts have been super happy though.

Another posted how nobody’s checked up on her despite a recent big event. But then said she hasn’t checked up on others because she has had a rough time. How she didn’t see that others may also be going through a rough time I really don’t know Hmm.

Neither of them mentioned having checked in on their friends. Hmm

I often check in with people generally, I have messaged a few people I knew were struggling with isolation, and it’s been appreciated. But I find it easy and I’m very chatty (over messaging) even when I’m anxious. Some people are the opposite and go very quiet when anxious - nothing wrong with that.

AdoreTheBeach · 26/04/2020 08:30

Have had a think about the album “lockdown 2020” and at first thought it poor taste but then read the poster saying how it’s similar to a journal. I’m thinking that’s actually a good thing. From the viewpoint of a journal, from a viewpoint of someone who may need to express what’s going on for them/how to deal/cope with the world right now but then also thought, we need to make sure we preserve our thoughts, feelings, how we are working within guidelines, what they are etc so future pandemics can be forewarned. Seems like the world lost the exoeriences if the Spanish Flu, got lulled into thinking the epidemics far away couldn’t possibly come over here, couldn’t possibly become a pandemic what with all our modern medicine etc. So yeah, I think we all need to record this and make sure grandkids, great grand kids etc know about it so things can be taken more seriously, faster in future (and maybe stop the weird animal eating /wet markets problems).

LaneBoy · 26/04/2020 09:46

I’m keeping a lockdown album on my phone. A cliche but this has been a massive wake up call of how little time we were spending as a family and I’ve been taking loads of photos on walks, activities we’ve done at home etc. I’ve not shared any on FB at all though. I might put some favourites up once it’s lifted but I don’t think that’s particularly different from people putting up photos from the school holidays really if it’s just a collection of photos of children playing etc

Hanfulofdust · 26/04/2020 10:06

YES! I can understand people being hurt when they're genuinely going through a terrible time and don't get support but the people I know who have posted this stuff don't seem to be the people who desperately need (or in fact offer out) support. One lady I know has a huge house full of toys and books and garden with swimming pool and is constantly posting this stuff and about how "her poor kids" are so deprived of stimulation, they're desperately missing their usual holiday activity clubs etc.

Hannah021 · 26/04/2020 10:14

@JKScot4 LOL the best part about the lockdown

DysonFury · 26/04/2020 10:27

I don't get any of this on Facebook, but then I don't befriend arseholes in real life or online.

circusintown · 26/04/2020 10:42

I agree, not one of the people who has shared any of this type of stuff has messaged me Grin

However, Slippery

"typed out on Facebook from their deathbed obviously"

This is really quite possible with this virus. It is causing some quite concerning conditions, silent hypoxia being one of them.
Most of those who have died would be well enough to use their mobile phone minutes before being intubated and have done so. Shouldn't really be eye-rolling them for that.

www.nytimes.com/2020/04/20/opinion/coronavirus-testing-pneumonia.html

Thefaceofboe · 26/04/2020 10:47

I have a friend constantly posting similar pictures and tweets but hasn’t stopped for a second to think what’s going on it everyone else’s life. I’m having a nightmare ttc which is my biggest priority right now but she doesn’t know that BECAUSE SHE HASNT ASKED ME.

TheSkyWasDark · 26/04/2020 13:31

"I have a friend constantly posting similar pictures and tweets but hasn’t stopped for a second to think what’s going on it everyone else’s life. I’m having a nightmare ttc which is my biggest priority right now but she doesn’t know that BECAUSE SHE HASNT ASKED ME."

I think there are a lot of people like this in the world.

Very very "poor me" but not thinking that everyone else has their own shit going on too.

Hannah021 · 26/04/2020 13:40

The thing is, if they are awful for not checking up on u, what do u call urself for not check up on them?

I dont get the double standard