My partner forgot what day my birthday is.

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So basically after I told my partner that I felt bad for forgetting it was my sister's birthday today, he decides to tell me he doesn't remember my birth date.
We have been together for over 3 years. We have a 2 year old together. I feel really hurt that he hasn't bothered to remember my birthday. I know his birthday and year of birth! Thankfully he remembers our sons birthday...

It just has me thinking, does this man even really care about me? I told him I was upset about it, he apologised and said it is hard for him to remember. I let it slide for now, but I can't stop thinking about it to be honest.
Am I being unreasonable?

Im terrible at remembering dates for things, my wifes birthday falls on the 20th April, i love history, mainly ww2 and its the same day as Hitler's, thats how i remember it 😂

I think it's quite a jump from 'he can't remember my birthday' to 'does he even care about me'? What makes you question that? My husband (of 24 years) still forgets mine occasionally but I put it down to him being overworked and forgetful about dates. It doesn't automatically make me think that he doesn't care about me. My birthday is just one day. I see that he cares about me in little ways every day. Don't you see that in your partner?

I've got dc1s date of birth wrong more than once. She's five and I love the bones of her. In also shit with numbers. The two things have nothing to do with each other. I have everyone's birthdays, including remixers, on my phone so my date-shittiness never spills over into actually forgetting to buy a present or whatever. As long as he's doing similar, it doesn't matter

My bday was last week, no body remembered including my 2yrs partner, i couldnt tell u how much i couldnt care

Saves me buying them presents

My dad would have been pressed to remember all our birthdays - but I’m sure he was fond of us all...

I was 24 for two years because I forgot how old I was.

From the ages of 2 to 7, my entire family celebrated my birthday 2 days late because my mother who gave birth to me got the date wrong. You really need to calm down.

🤣 but then I forgot how old I was today too! I added a year by mistake!

It looks like nearly everyone thinks I'm overreacting. Which is fair enough. I'm 26 and this is my first relationship. I just thought that remembering the birthday of the person you are in a relationship with was important. It's not my birthday but it will be in a few weeks.

I mostly feel bad about forgetting my sister's birthday because my mum messaged me asking me to wish her happy birthday. I did it for my mum, not her. I usually remember to do it. I don't really like my sister, she's a lot younger than me, she's 14.

My mum forgot my birthday once and it felt awful because it was the first time it happened!
We always celebrated birthdays in my family, it was one of the happier times to look forward to. So it is important to me.

My relationship with DP isn't great. Sometimes I wonder why I am with him at all. This is one of those times. I was already questioning it before the whole "he doesn't even know my birthday " thing.

It is good to see other people's perspectives. I'm actually surprised that a lot of people forget birthdays to be honest.

Tbh it is different as a symptom. Standing alone in a good relationship it really means bugger all.
But now you say there are problems it is easy to see why you've attached significance to it.

If your relationship isn't great than yes I can understand how it hurtful it is.

It took my husband probably around 5 years to remember the date of my birthday!

Don't expect it to improve, I once worked in a role where I often had to get parents to confirm childrens date of birth and many fathers had no clue.

I have never been able to remember birthdays. I just can’t do it. Dates mean nothing to me and I often have to remind myself what point in the year we are...

Some people just can’t do dates.

But if you’ve got other stuff going on you’re probably looking for signs he doesn’t care.

I don’t remember birthdays. Even my husband.

Dates just don’t register with some people.