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Who should take the baby?

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pandarific · 25/04/2020 13:13

1 young toddler, no childcare, DH and I both working from home, me 4 days, him 4.5, splitting the days. I have said all week I needed to work this weekend too, DH said fine, he'll take him as we usually do and swap.

It was my morning to get up with DS, I got up at 7, fed him, and spent the morning minding him and cleaning our house, which always turns into a total tip by the weekend.

DH got up at 9 and I continued to clean/tidy/sort laundry while he had him, and when at 11:40 DS yawned I told him to put him down in 10 mins or he'll get overtired (we're following a schedule re sleep, it's usually 12 but if the baby's tired, bring it earlier or they get overtired and then you have a nightmare).

I go upstairs with my laptop, at 3 mins past 12 I hear dh go in to put ds down for a nap, 'hm, bet he's overtired' I think - cue 45 mins later dh asking me to take over with ds. I had a look, but it was obvious he was way overtired and not going down in any sooner than half an hour, and probably not at all now it's so late, so called DH back to take him down, give him a snack and maybe try later.

DH has the hump now because 'he could do with doing some work' - more like because I've gone back to the bedroom with my laptop and he's stuck with overtired crabby child.

AIBU to think it's his own fault, I did try to tell him, and if he messes up the nap, it's him who should suffer the consequences, and I should get until ds usual wake up time from nap to work?

OP posts:
redwinefine · 25/04/2020 20:55

YANBU. My DH does this as well. He's WFH at the mo, I'm on maternity and know baby's moods, routines, etc. He'll try to put him down for a nap way too late e.g. when baby's overtired after I've told him 1 hour ago to put him down as he's rubbing his eyes. I don't point this out to him.... Smile

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