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AIBU: not being given credit or thanks for training someone at work?

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SmoothAvocado · 25/04/2020 13:11

I work in a techy place and were one of the few people in the company who knows how to operate and do some minor troubleshooting of a machine. A guy in another team wanted some of his experiments run on this machine (via his assistant) so they wanted me to train her (the assistant) on how to use it so I spent 1.5 hours showing her how to run it along with troubleshooting some of the errors she got (including fixing a few issues she had) after training. She started off using the pre-defined settings that I gave her (which were created by the machine maker) and then amended some of them to suit her needs with my advice. Sometimes, I'd refer her onto the makers of the machine for things I couldn't answer.

The guy who's experiment it was presented all his data so far on it - including mentioning/thanking his assistant 3 or so times for all the work she's done on running the machine that I trained her on.

I feel a bit put out that I wasn't thanked once by him in the presentation to the wider audience as he's seen how many hours I spent often helping her (yes for some things I referred her on but I did all of the training to show her how to use it and helped with at least 60% of issues she had) - she was always grateful and thankful and he when he saw me working on it with her, would also thank me quickly in person.

I'm not on his team work-wise and was just resourced by them to help with this.

Am I being unreasonable to expect a little mention/thank you (and feel upset I didn't get it) or do they think her thanking me one to one every time I have helped her is enough? Surely, he's also thanked her privately yet thanks her in the presentation too?

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PeanutDouglas · 25/04/2020 13:13

Erm, yes I think I might be a little miffed, but I’d get over it pretty quickly.

PeanutDouglas · 25/04/2020 13:14

Unsure why you’d get a mention in the presentation tho. You have been thanked by her.

GrumpyHoonMain · 25/04/2020 13:14

Don’t help his team again

Rosebel · 25/04/2020 13:17

I think the fact that they both thanked you at the time is more important than just mentioning it in a speech.

Pelleas · 25/04/2020 13:19

Hard to judge as I'm in a very different industry, but where I work a presentation wouldn't be the place to dole out thanks. You'd thank someone privately or use the company recognition scheme for a public thank you.

minettechatouette · 25/04/2020 13:21

No, I wouldn't expect to be thanked in the presentation in those circumstances. By that logic, anytime anyone is thanked for their contribution it is also necessary to thank the people who have trained them to do their job. And what about the people who trained those people, and so on...? It was perfectly appropriate for them to thank you in person but not publicly.

ThePants999 · 25/04/2020 13:21

You want to be specially called out, by someone who wasn't even the person you helped, for a whopping hour and a half doing some training? YABVU.

LimpidPools · 25/04/2020 13:28

How on earth would that go OP? Thanks to my assistant, Mabel, for the hours of work she's put in at the machine, to SmoothAvocado for training her in how to use it, to the cleaner who made sure we had a pleasant environment to work in, to Mabel's secondary school maths teacher who inspired her to enter this field...

You have been thanked all along, but this wasn't your department or your project. You taught her how to use a bit of kit, you didn't do the project. Thanking you in the presentation would have been odd.

heartsonacake · 25/04/2020 13:28

YABU. She was grateful and thankful, that’s enough. You don’t need to be mentioned in a presentation; you’ve already been thanked.

SmoothAvocado · 25/04/2020 19:32

Thanks for the replies everyone so far. The training was 1.5 hours but the troubleshooting was days worth of work.

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AcrobaticCardigan · 25/04/2020 21:43

Sorry OP, although you provided training, you weren’t working on the project itself, so wouldn’t be owed a thank you in the presentation. By that extension, many others probably helped too.

Sirzy · 25/04/2020 21:46

They did thank you.

If they had to publicly thank everyone who has helped in whatever way half the presentation time would be taken with thanks!

SmoothAvocado · 26/04/2020 15:13

Thanks for your responses. I wasn’t sure which is why I posted here asking. If anything, it makes me feel less annoyed knowing that I perhaps shouldn’t have expected it and him not thanking me wasn’t rudeness/dislike towards me

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MitziK · 26/04/2020 15:24

The fact that he has credited his assistant suggests to me that he's not in the business of ignoring contributions/taking credit for himself.

I've sat in interminably boring presentations where somebody has been roundly congratulated and applauded for 'all their hard work' when the most work they did was (after much protest) tell me what they actually wanted from me, rather than expect me to work it out at the last minute and then immediately change everything because they 'didn't mean that '.

SmoothAvocado · 26/04/2020 15:32

Oh yeah that I know but I guess I was just worried he particularly disliked/disrespected me for some reason. If he credited no one, I think I wouldn’t have even started worrying about this.

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