To think this might be it.....

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I've had quite an unsuccessful track record with relationships. But have 3 lovely DS, youngest being 12. Split with second husband June last year, spent few months on and off with oldest DS dad. Ending this completly just before lockdown.
I believe there is love out there for me... 2 weeks into lockdown I joined a dating site, just to have a bit of conversation... I have met a lovely guy, we have talked constantly for the week and appear to be compatible in every way. I know in the scheme of things this is no kind if issue but I'd really value any thoughts.. AIBU to think this could possibly be something?

It’s been a week and you haven’t met IRL... I think you’re getting ahead of yourself, but lockdown is hard on us all.

You cant possibly know any such thing. All you know is you really are struck. The infatuation stage can last for 18 months and after that love grows or doesnt. I think you need a reality check. Enjoy it but have no expectations

Men are very good at telling you what you want to hear. As said proceed with caution. Why not just have some fun without getting in too deep?

Your youngest is at an age were he could do without a boyfriend coming, then going, so hold off introductions.

Sounds like you're one of those people who will latch onto any man just to avoid being single. You don't know this guy, you've been talking to him from a bloody dating site but actually think he's the next one? Really? Honestly, as long as you're unable to be happy in your own company and constantly need to be in a relationship, the chances of having a decent, healthy relations are very slim. Focus on working on yourself and why it's so essential to be in a relationship before foisting another bloke on your kids.

I've been single since July and couldn't even think about meeting anyone else yet. And certainly not because I'm hankering for my ex.

You can't possibly know if you're compatible in every way! You don't even know if you fancy him in real life.

Take a breath OP!

You split up with ExH last year, have been with DCs dad since and now, 6(ish?)weeks on, you're seeing future with a man you've spoken to for a week or so.

Dating sites, this early on, should be about putting the feelers out and having lighthearted conversations with different people, not being infatuated with one man after such a short period time - without meeting him too! You're setting yourself up for heartbreak.

I think it'd benefit you to take a huge step back. You don't even know this man.
Work on feeling happy on your own, focus on your kids and realise that you don't need a man in your life. They're not a necessity.

Sorry to sound rude but you sound like my mum! Always had a fucking boyfriend, always craving male attention. From the age of 4-18 I met 7 boyfriends. That doesn't sound a lot but now I'm a parent it realise that an awful lot of people to have around your children! You sound like, given half a chance, that you would head down the same route! Please don't, focus on yourself and your children for a while.

What's the rush? If you only split with your sons dad just before lockdown, then why are you ready to meet people already and think that you have this amazing connection?

Sorry if this is rude but this Is coming from a person who always came 2nd and trust me... it stays with you!

I met someone online that I thought had real potential. He was genuine, came across as intelligent, had unusual interests that intrigued me (nothing dodgy, linked to but not the same as interests that I have).

When we met in person he really struggled to hold a conversation. It was like he had to carefully consider every response before he said anything. It took ages for him to answer the simplest of questions. It might have been something he did online too, but never noticed the delay with online chat.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt and did meet him again, but despite all the promise online, it just wasn't a match.

You are not unreasonable to think it might be something. But don't assume it definitely is. There's no way to know yet.

You don’t know what he smells like. So you don’t know anything

Without sounding harsh, you sound desperate. Slow down. Talking to someone online and knowing them in real life is different.

I predict we'll be seeing this poster on the relationships board in a few weeks when it's all gone wrong

I'm really sorry not to be more positive about this, but I too think you need to wait until you have met a few times before you can have any idea what this man is like. I did online dating for quite a while and chatted with quite a lot of men who I thought were really nice. Of those most were really not once I met them, two were lovely. One I had a relationship with for a couple of years, the second was from my second foray into OLD and he is now my DH. As the saying goes - you have to kiss (or meet!) an awful lot of frogs before you get your prince.

@AnneLovesGilbert (awesome username) you are so right. When I was 18 the most gorgeous guy asked me out, couldn't believe he liked me! Got on so well but when I went to kiss him just couldn't take the smell of his skin. Kept trying but had to break up over this, he wasn't unclean we just weren't compatible due to skin smell. Never had that problem since.

It’s not going to make up for other incompatibilities mooching but it’s essential all the same. I had a colleague I sat next to for years who was perfectly clean and well groomed but his base smell just wasn’t right. Lovely bloke but while it wasn’t great generally, when I was pregnant it was gag-worthy.

When you’ve had a bad day you want someone whose neck you can bury your face in, whether they’re fresh from the shower or sweaty from work/gym/DIY.