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DH and gambling

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rhubarbpie6 · 24/04/2020 14:39

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DH has always enjoyed a bit of gambling, it's never got him in trouble but it's meant I've been wary of it, he can get a bit too into it and in my opinion, it seems a bit too close to an addiction. I became quit strict with it, especially as we bought a house etc.

He used to do matched betting which is how I saw gambling could easily start again. But he hasn't touched it in years almost because of work.

Now he's in lockdown, his job means he gets full pay without doing anything (public sector), I realised he was gambling again. It's blackjack 10p to £1 here and there, all profits from matched betting. I asked him to go one day without doing it to prove he wasn't addicted and he left his phone whilst he did tasks round the house. I've just seen he still did one bet when he quickly got his phone.

I know he isn't losing any money because he is using the profits from matched betting and I am keeping an eye on it but I'm getting worried.

On one hand, it's a hobby and it's (at the moment) harmless, I've seen a lot of men of my friends gambling online through boredom since sport etc is cancelled.

On the other hand, he hasn't been entirely transparent. I've asked if he's bet anything and he says no only matched betting but now I see he's lying - but then that also is because I'm so uptight about it.

What do you think?

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CuriousaboutSamphire · 24/04/2020 14:44

I read your sense that you worked hard to control his behaviour, he found a form or gambling he could persuade you to accept, that you consider any profit from that gambling to be his to use as he chooses and that he lies to you about his ongoing habit.

So, what did he actually change besides your perception of his actions?

rhubarbpie6 · 24/04/2020 15:02

Matched betting I never had an issue with and to be honest, at the beginning I never really knew much about online gambling as I was quite oblivious to it.
It was only once when he lost some money 5 years ago I put my foot down. Since then he hadn't done anything except matched betting or when we've gone to the horse racing, placing a bet.
However, the issue is the secrecy of it, I don't really care about sports betting it's the casino aspect.

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