I don't like my partner shouting at my child

[jaoler]

So, I'm just looking for peoples personal experiences really.

I was a single mum to my DS (3) for the first part of his life. I met DP and had DD.

Anyway, he's never massively shouted at my DS or anything, he's usually two steps back when it comes to discipline but since isolation he's been stepping in more. Even when I'm mid disciplining him, he'll chime in just to repeat what I'm saying.

My question is I do WANT him to be able to discipline him in circumstances where I'm not around/not there but otherwise, it gives me a really horrible feeling listening to it!

AIBU? Do any other parents with a 'new partner' feel like this regarding discipline? Or do you happily share it because you live together in a family household?

Have you and your DP had an explicit conversation about how you want to parent / step-parent / co-parent / not-parent your DS?

This.

I think you're spot on with what his motivation for disciplining is actually!

So your dp thinks you are too soft on your 3 year old? What are you going to do about that? Do you talk to him about it? What was he like before you became pregnant with his baby? Will his treatment of your son become a deal breaker for you ?