So it seems that what I feel is a fair share of household tasks and what dh does is widely different and is really starting to get to me!
Today is an example and I would really appreciate some thoughts.
For background, dh and I are lucky in that we are both still working. Dh has to physically go to work (not frontline NHS, more infrastructure but in a manual labour kind of job - also important to note he works shifts) i can work from home and have been for the last month. 90% of my company are furloughed so actually it's really busy at the moment. We have 1 DC who is 4 and at home now. We were eligible to send her to nursery but decided if i was at home she should be at home as well.
Today, as well as working from 730 - 1600 and looking after dd, i have:
Emptied the dishwasher
Taken the bins out (bin day)
Sorted breakfast & lunch for us both
Made Dh lunch to take to work
Cleaned the pets out (2 Guinea pigs)
Done two loads of washing ( emptied wash bins, washed, dried and put away)
Dh finished his shift at 1400 today (started at 0730), came home and I asked him to watch dd as I had a couple of important calls (if he hadn't of been home I would have coped but dd would have probably had her tablet and knows not to interrupt unless urgent) dd went to play dh, and then came up to see me 5 times whilst on calls so I was more distracted than normal.
Dh had said that he would cook dinner. When I logged off found dh on his phone and no dinner started. So I offered to start. Anyway, I started dinner, dh stopped playing his game came in and then moaned I was doing dinner wrong and took over in a strop.
Should mention that dh had said he would clean the pets out today, he then shouted at me to do it so I did.
All the way through cooking he moaned about he had to do everything, and how he didn't get time to do anything!
I have since cleared up from dinner as he wants to play his game, I will do the rest of the tidying up, I need to go for a run, and then most likely will be putting dd to bed.
Am I unreasonable to expect to not play a game and help with dinner even though I have been at home working all day as well?