To wonder how much alcohol hanging around is too much ...

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I've posted about my DH having a drinking problem. He's had therapy and hasn't got drunk for 18 months and there were very long gaps before that..
He's been diagnosed with depression - and been on Prozac - his drinking was binge patree. - he would get blasted for two or theee days (a weekend) every three months or so and lie in bed drinking. Anyway DH's sister
has on a couple of occasions cited DH's drinking problem as a reason not to include him in important family decisions - including one involving MIL helping SIL buy a house. (This was only a year ago when DH certainly wasn't drinking?!)
She says she can't speak to her brother about things- I've felt that was weird then just before lockdown we were at his sister's - it was a family birthday...
Well... I have never seen so many bottles of (some half empty some full) displayed around a house..
My parents had a pub when I was a teenager and I'm not kidding it felt like a pub. But it wasn't the stuff you get in a pub... expensive gin (about 10 bottles) wine, white and red - in racks all over the lounge and kitchen. And on stands.
I didn't think much of it but now I'm wondering - could SIL have the beginnings of the same problem.
How much alcohol is too much to have around a house when you have 2 young DD - their's are 5 and 3.

It isn't the amount of alcohol in the house that matters. It's how/why it's being drunk that's the issue.

I know people who have a large stash which is literally getting dusty, and others that will only have 1 bottle at a time. Except that bottle is a litre of vodka and won't last a day.

Exactly. I have a groaning shelf of alcohol but don't even have 1 drink a week on average. I like choice, having things to offer and I use it in cooking sometimes. It keeps years and looks quite attractive I think.

What @gobby said. How much hanging around isn't an issue if it's not being drunk. But if there are bottles everywhere and they're regularly being replenished, that could indicate a problem. We have a lot of gin in our house and anyone ratching through my cupboards might think I have a problem. In fact I'm teetotal but people keep buying it for me as presents (not many people know I'm teetotal!!)

If it's expensive I doubt she has a problem. She would also be hiding it I think. Pretty presumptuous of your really

Seriously? I have a lots of bottles of gin, all opened. I maybe have 1 or 2 gins a week.
Why would your DH be involved in his sisters house buying decisions?