To be irritated by my neighbour’s house guests

11 replies

PerpetualCircle · 21/04/2020 21:07

I live in a first floor flat with my son, the flat has a shared garden with the ground floor flat. Which would be a lovely place to spend lockdown days if it wasn’t for my neighbour’s house guests.
The neighbour is fine, a single senior gent, but very shortly before lockdown, his adult son and 2 teenage daughters moved in. These are not big flats, so they will need to spread out. They take over the outdoor space, to the extent that I don’t feel comfortable sitting outside. I’m pretty sure the landlord doesn’t know about his extra tenants, and I’m annoyed why these additional neighbours had to land just before lockdown.
I just wish it was still just the old man downstairs

OP posts:

Esspee · 21/04/2020 21:09

Why not ask them nicely if they could give you some space in the garden.

JasonPollack · 21/04/2020 21:10

Are you and they renting? Complain to landlord? Do you know how many bedrooms the flat is i.e. are they overcrowded? Have you spoken to them about sharing the outside space more fairly?

Thehop · 21/04/2020 21:11

Just go and share the space!

anonymum95 · 21/04/2020 21:12

Is he senior enough that they've moved in, assuming a lockdown was going to happen, to help their father?

Washyourhandsyoufilthyanimal · 21/04/2020 21:13

Of course you wish it was just still the old man is my bet is he never used the garden so you had it all to yourself? Just share it, he has the right to have guests!

RandomMess · 21/04/2020 21:15

How old is your DS? Surely you are up and about before the teens - use the garden in the morning as well as whenever you want?

percentageshelp · 21/04/2020 21:25

Speak to your neighbour and agree to certain times you can each use the garden.

Original poster

PerpetualCircle · 21/04/2020 22:46

The flat is rented and overcrowded, there are mattresses on the floor. The old man is quite sprightly doesn’t appear to require 3 carers and is able to go out for his own supplies.

My DS is 10 and has ASD and is struggling with ‘ them invaders’ , so probably I am being more sensitive than most to the change. We have a work around by going to nearby reccy field for exercise, but just wish we could chill out in the garden in peace.

OP posts:

Whatifitallgoesright · 21/04/2020 23:23

Encourage out your inner cat. I don't quite mean piss in the corners of the garden - although that could certainly do the job - but establish you and your son's area. Take out cushions and beanbags, make a cardboard box den. Reclaim your territory. They can't object. You were there first. Besides they probably have no idea their actions are having any effect on you (teenagers).

Original poster

PerpetualCircle · 21/04/2020 23:29

@whatifitallgoesright great idea, DS will enjoy that

OP posts:

PawPawNoodle · 22/04/2020 00:55

Maybe you could just go and talk to them rather than passive-aggressively leaving your belongings in the garden, which wouldn't really be on if it's a fully shared space.

For all you know they are his grandchildren and their parent is shielding, so this was the arrangement they had to come to. What he does or who he has living there really is nothing to do with you, either.

Flip