husband and family

[1800swoman]

AIBU to find it deeply upsetting that I found a facebook entry written yesterday by husband to an old school friend saying how proud he is of his THREE sons (with an accompanying photo of three eldest sons from previous marriage)wwhen he has FIVE son AND TWO of them are with me?

What was the context? I think it will make a difference.

Really depends on the context of the post.

No that is hurtful. However could it be that the friend has met the 3 older sons when they were smaller and had asked after them specifically?

Thank you for replying. No the friend hadn't met the older three sons - they have not seen each other since they were teenagers, they are now both mid 50's, our boys are 8 and 11 - he had said he had 5 sons but only that he was "very proud" of the three eldest.

So are the three eldest grown up and have therefore gone out and made their own paths in life? Eg I'm so proud of the been they've become

*men

We'd be having a conversation, for sure.

About how I wasn't currently feeling 'very proud' of the father of our two sons.

How old are the eldest 3?

I mean, if the 3 eldest sons are out and about in the world achieving things, then i think it makes sense for him to say he's proud of them ... at 8 and 5 your sons are undoubtedly great, but probably haven't yet racked up many achievements to be proud of. I wouldn't think too much on it tbh.

8 and 11, sorry!

I think it’s just clumsily worded. He loves and will be proud of them all.

I’m more “proud” of my elder daughter than my youngest only because she has achieved things. I will be equally proud of my youngest in years to come.